AITK for staying mutual for a family drama?
Long story short, my maternal cousin brother Tirtha is an Orthopedic, he got married 2 years ago with Lina a lawyer after dating her for 3 years. My whole family including Dolly aunty aka Tirtha's mother and his brother my fav cousin Partha welcomed this lovely newly married couple. I often showed up in Dolly Aunty's house while Tirtha and Lina lived separately for months from her house whenever I had extra leave days or weekend, we cooked , deep cleansed the whole house, watched funny movie all evening, go for a walk at afternoon talk about my late Grandma (her mother), and sleep together talking over who got fat over the years and all the silly stuffs of family, moreover she's another mother to me, I love her so much. Tirtha and Lina had their anniversary this January and we all got invited as cousins. Dolly Aunty was not invited, my mother and my other Aunt Dina got mad at Tirtha and Lina for not inviting Dolly aunty, they even argued at the back door for half an hour on this, I called my Dolly aunty right then and there she cried the whole time I almost didn't get most of her words over sobbing sounds. We family members left their party early. My mother was so angry all the while we returned the way home she rant about family values, I decided to visit my aunt that weekend. She was a disaster that day, eye bags, knee cap on right knee, hair frizzy and unwashed, she looked sick. I stayed with her that night, she had a fever. I called cousin Partha but he couldn't have left from his MBBS campus. I called my cousin Tirtha and Lina but they didn't pick the call. I called my nearest living Aunt Dina she came the next morning. After she arrived and took care of the house and Aunt Dolly , somehow she gained some strength back.
Apparently the maid quit working for them a few months ago and ever since then my cousin in law Lina dumped her laundry, dirty dishes every daily chores on Dolly aunty, according to Dolly aunty my aunty had to wake up 6:00 am to cook breakfast for Tirtha and Lina, make tiffin/lunch box for both of them even had to wash both of their clothes, even she had to throw Lina's sanitary napkins in the trash bin every month. So Aunty's claims are like “ my daughter in law doesn't help me in house hold chores even though she knows that I have knee issues and no maid help”. I reached out to my cousin Tirtha although he was avoiding my phone call, He straight up denied all the claims, he said and I quote “Mom's being dramatic.... She just can't handle Lina's successful career..... I didn't marry Lina to do all those household chores, she had other priorities you guys leave her alone...... Mom don't need a maid she's being dramatic and she can handle all the work don't worry..... Hiring a maid is such a waste of money..... I have other work to do I can't do chores I can't cook Mom can do it, Lina is not for the kitchen..... Mom can handle it all”. Y'all I forgot to mention that all those 3 people live together from last year's Christmas, so somehow this is the condition, some of my family is pissed at Tirtha for making Dolly aunty work to sickness, some are praising Tirtha for protecting his wife from traditional home chores situation and being a supportive husband. I am genuinely hanged at the edge of my moral values for this situation. I never contacted Lina she always avoided me at family functions whenever I tried to make conversation with her she avoided me, I stopped approaching her after some time with all due respect, because I don't want to be an eyesore to her she deserves her personal space and privacy. But whatever they are doing are any of them right? Why didn't Lina interfere with the situation 🤔 What is Tirtha's point at this stage 🤨 Is it that hard to hire a maid I don't why but Dolly Aunty's claims are seems to be fabricated as well. It's confusing. Am I the kameena for not picking a side?