u/AnnedreaDoria

Maybe some of you are interested in this.

I had a trial shift at a stable, everyone was very gossipy, but was overly nice towards me. I had a bad feeling about this place.

So I didn't sign anything and asked for a second trial shift. The owner was very understanding, that I didn't want to quit my job immediately and told me I was acting very smart for getting to know the stable better.

So today was my second trial shift, I wanted to know how much work it actually is, last time I cleaned 5 boxes, but it would be closer to 15/20 when all open positions are filled, but today there were so many owners helping, that I cleaned 6 boxes ...

The stable knew 6 days beforehand there was someone on trial and there were 7 people helping today. Instead of telling some people to stay home, or go we were a lot of people and I didn't get to do much more work, than last time.

I've overheard a groom talking how she's wanting to leave for a while and that she likes the horses but the boss is a pain and the tone behind the scenes is pretty harsh. A lot of accusations of laziness, when there's 50 f***n horses to care for. Instead of hiring more people, the boss is belittling her employees.

Today I looked at the room for staff and the toilets with different eyes.last time I thought, he people did quit, a lot of work needs to be done, so yeah it's looking a bit grubby, today I've learned the staff room looks like this period. No one is being payed cleaning it, so no one does clean it. The toilets aren't fulfilling any criteria for a modern workplace. People don't go to the toileta because they are filthy. Instead they are dehydrating themselves, which is dangerous particularly in summer.

Sooo I trusted my gut. I won't start there. My workers rights were fought for, I will not spit on over a century of industrial actions to be exploited for my love for horses.

Sorry again for my weird English, no native speaker

Ich zeichne echt gerne, bin aber echt nicht sonderlich gut und würde gern in Museen,etc sitzen und malen. Ich habe dad Gefühl, man wirkt dann super schnell wie ein Arsch und falls Leute dann doch mal interessiert aufs Blatt gucken, findet man bei mir nur mittelmäßiges Zeug.

Wirkt es arschig, oder ist es nur in meinem Kopf?

Gibt's Tricks, wie ich nicht so drüber wirke?

Warum zum Fick muss ich das Familiengrab nach preußischer Ordnung pflegen und warum zum Fick haben Bernhard und Rosel das Gefühl mir reinreden zu dürfen?!

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Prämisse: ländliches Deutschland

Ich übernehme die Grabpflege vom Familiengrab, seit Muttern Miniskus hat. Würde ich es nicht tun, würde sie es weitermachen, aber es wäre für ihre Knie absolut Gift.

Also kaufe ich mehrjährige insektenfreundliche Pflanzen, damit ich die Kosten und Arbeit entspannt halten kann. Bienen, Schmetterlinge am Grab, zauberhaft möchte man meinen. Aber nein! Bei uns werden 4x im Jahr neue Grabpflanzen gekauft, nach Jahreszeit, die werden nicht fair gehandelt und werden am Ende der Saison weggeworfen, weil Stiefmütterchen im Sommer ist wohl Grabschändung, außerdem wird um das Grab jegliches Leben weggeharkt, da ist nur feiner Sand (glaube da gibt's mittlerweile ne Verordnung dagegen, an die sich kein Schwanz hält). Ich dachte, meine Lösung ist ein Gewinn, ich hab wenig Arbeit, am Grab gibt's das ganze Jahr Blumen und Insekten freuen sich, aber nein.

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Von allen Seiten hagelt es Kritik und Spott, ich würde mir das zu einfach machen, das macht man nicht so, das ist den Toten nicht würdig (wtf).

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Ich bin der Meinung:

A) wer tot ist, ist tot, die können mir also keine Fleißaufgaben mehr aufdrücken

B) Grabpflege sollte keine Unsummen kosten

C) Pflanzen wegwerfen, die überlebensfähig sind, weil die Saison vorbei ist, ist scheiße, da spuckt man den LandwirtInnen ins Gesicht, die die gepflanzt, gepflegt und geerntet haben

D) meine Gräber, meine Sache, das ist Sau intim lass mich das machen, wie ich es für gut halte

E) Arbeiten am Grab sind nicht für alle eine gesunde Art der Trauer und Erinnerung

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Was soll also diese Kaiserzeit-Scheiße?! Lasst die Leute doch klarkommen, die eigenen Toten müssen nicht so viel Platz und Geld im Leben der Lebenden einnehmen!!

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I've noticed a pattern, that Tommy is getting more and more glorified, even though he murder's, lies, cooperates with Nazis. In the series, at least from my POV, he's painted as a deeply flawed man, that is ambitious to a fault. And I know, we make fun of his ideas and Tommy has a plan is a meme at this point, but this feels way more light-hearted than how we treat Tommy's love interests.Tommy is no good man by all means, he's just really hot.

The love interests in Tommy's life, when discussed here, are framed as controlling, dumb, or at the very least killjoys. When in the context of the series, they are women in a time, where you're hands were bound by law and unwritten law. Yes the women are flawed as well, but maybe they aren't written as well as Tommy (at least in the earlier seasons).

This hype around Tommy and the consistent belittling of the love interests, while the female relatives aren't viewed as harsh starts to give me vibes a lá every woman is a c*nt except mommy.

Does anyone feel the same, or is it just me?

Edit OP here: Seems like the problem isn't really new, I'm just late to the party. It's been great to read all these constructive comments, thanks for answering honestly. Most of you have the same feeling of this sub but y'all have different approaches that's super interesting

Bzw wird die Existenz von Wasser und CO2 in Kondensstreifen ganz aberkannt? Weil irgendwie muss ja nach der Verbrennung von Kerosin was aus dem Stoff werden

Hi, I'm sure a lot of you have thought about quitting hospitality at some point.

I am working as a barkeeper in a big touristy restaurant. I have next to no guest contact, I am just producing drinks, if I'm able to, I help the servers. I do 35h per week, my boss pays on time, the tip out is fine, my direct supervisor tries to honor every wish for my days off (on week days).

So far this seems like a great gig and I really enjoy barkeeping under these conditions, but the restaurant's food is getting worse, and I feel bad for our guests. A lot of my colleagues have a drinking problem. I miss my friends, that do not work in hospitality. I don't get a long with my direct supervisor, he's an utter misanthrope, sneers at every waitress. A lot of my colleagues have kids and if I want a weekend off, I need to plan it 3 months beforehand and than there's a chance, that a parent will steal my days off. I notice, that I'm becoming bitter at my job, that I honestly like, but everything surrounding it slowly sucks the energy out of me.

Does anybody has ideas, thoughts on how to proceed?

Sorry for my English, it's not the yellow from the egg✌️