I need some advice (2 year relationship)
I’d like to hear some other peoples perspective on my situation, as I don’t have anyone else to talk to about it.
Me and my boyfriend and have been dating for 2 years now and we have been great. We always communicate to each other, he takes amazing care of me and is great to my family as well. I love him as a person and I’m hoping we live a happy life together. We rarely get into arguments or have any dilemmas with eachother, he is patient and understanding of my feelings and all of these other wonderful things. One thing about him is that he has a much higher sex drive than me, and is into more un vanilla things regarding intimacy. Since we are open with each other, he has informed me that he watches p**n occasionally. He told me he doesn’t watch the weird kind of p, but the kind that involves a lot of self discovering (either solo or couple) with different kinks he’s into. When he first told this to me, I felt a little conflicted, because in my morals, I feel like watching p**n in a relationship shouldn’t be done. But I’ve seen so many cases of partners not communicating this, or hiding it from their partner, which causes more issues. But knowing my boyfriend’s nature, he would never do anything to hurt me and has told this to me so many times. He has had this habit from a young age, and has admitted to an addiction to it. Though he tells me that after spending intimate time with me, he finds p**n less appealing. And if we haven’t seen eachother in a while, he says that those with similar traits to me within these videos makes the experience a lot better, because he thinks of the experience he gets with me. I feel insecure with him watching others online, but the reasons he is giving me seem quite valid and I’m not sure how to take it considering how much stigma with it. My boyfriend is always very respectful towards me during our intimacy, he never pushes me to do things I don’t want to, and he’s patient when I’m not in the mood to do things. He always attends to my needs first, and takes care of me during the whole experience. I just have these worries in my head with him watching others online, and I’m not sure if others are in the same experience where their partner has openly communicated this to them and they are a great partner, but it’s just something that weighs on the mind.
Can I get some advice?