u/Anonymousstar2026

Hi, I want to date but I don't want to be intimate with anyone especially since in My religion you have to get married first. I just want to experience what it's like to be dating someone as an adult, but I don't want to be intimate with them. A hug or a peck is fine and I'm okay with fondling but I'm not okay with anything more.

I mean I did think about marrying someone just so I could experience intimacy but now I'm contemplating if that's a good idea, it seems to be an extremely addictive activity which means I would want to keep doing it or I might justify doing it out of marriage. The best choice is just to avoid it, kind of like vaping.

Is it possible for me to just date someone without them wanting to be intimate? My last boyfriend was when I was in middle school and he fondled a lot and a bunch of things even before we started dating and at some point I realized I didn't want to take it further. Tried to get him back together with his ex, I succeeded and realized I didn't want to date like that again where the guy is obsessed with my body. So it's been like a decade or so but I'm curious about what I would be like to date someone as an adult with their own money, but I really really want to avoid being intimate.

Is there a platform I could use?

A while back I had started a new job and I was talking to my coworker and he mentioned that he wasn't going to be dating for a while, while I have friends who got married out of high school and some that are dating, I've been asked out by so many men and it always brings me to ask Myself why ? even though I like the idea of romance I don't want to date, turns out I'm just Aegoromantic for many reasons like childhood trauma.

I also recently had a friend I just reunited with who mentioned that he also is deciding to stay single, now I'm wondering if a lot more of us are deciding to stay single.

Are you disillusioned about romance? Is it just too much work especially when it's just going to be over at the end of the day? Or is it just the economy?

I am genuinely curious about this. I thought I was the only one out of my group of friends, one is already married, another and her boyfriend have plan to get engaged, one is dating around and another one is really eager to date etc... but I've encountered a surprising amount of people my age who seem to want to stay single.