I (20F) can’t understand what my boyfriend (20M) wanted me to do here.
My boyfriend (M20) and I (F20) have been together for a year now. We were supposed to hang out after he got off work last night. I got out at 5pm and he was supposed to get out around 9–10pm, so while I waited I asked my friend to keep me company. We just chilled at a park because it was nice out, and I told my boyfriend about it beforehand.
Around 9pm I texted him asking when he got out and he replied, “Whenever.” I told him, “Okay meet me at 59th st,” and out of nowhere he said he didn’t want to meet anymore and wanted to just go home and hang out another day. It felt really random and he wouldn’t tell me why. I assumed maybe he was upset because I was with my friend since he doesn’t like her and has said before that I put my friends before him.
The thing is, he has a habit of saying things like “I don’t want...” but then expecting the opposite and getting mad if I actually listen. So when he kept telling me to go home and that he didn’t want to see me, I thought maybe he still wanted me to come anyway. I know that sounds childish and confusing, but that’s how things usually go.
So I went to his job and waited outside. The entire time he kept saying to leave and that he changed his mind because his “feelings changed.” I would’ve completely understood if he was tired since he worked from 11am–10pm, but he wouldn’t explain anything. Eventually I got annoyed and said okay, I’m leaving.
The second I left he texted me: “Now you left, now it’s ‘my bad dw,’ now all of a sudden you mad and you dry and you annoyed and u not gon wanna link. You’re just a character.”
At that point I was confused because he had JUST been telling me to leave and calling me weird for trying to force seeing him. So I turned around thinking maybe he actually wanted to see me, and when I told him I was coming back he said, “I thought you left lmfao? Go home.”
I still waited. Then I literally saw him sneak out of work from another side knowing I was waiting there. I had to run to catch up to him, which he has never done before. I kept asking what was wrong and what I did because honestly I felt like I hadn’t done anything.
He was acting cold and wouldn’t talk. I suggested getting food because that’s usually what we do after work and I figured we could talk things out while eating, but he just wanted to go home. I was hungry and told him I’d stay out a little longer and get food because I didn’t want to go home yet.
Then he looked at me and said I looked crazy, like I had just been “fucked,” and questioned why I still wanted to be outside after being out all day. Mind you, it was almost 90 degrees in NYC, I’d been outside since 10am because of work, and it was around 10pm at this point. Obviously I wasn’t looking my best.
Then he texted me: “You been outside all day & night. Look high asf and literally looked like you just got fucked, forced ya self to link me but dubbed going to the crib with me cause you still wanna be outside.”
I genuinely don’t understand what his problem was or what he wanted me to do in this situation. One minute he’s telling me to leave him alone, the next minute he’s upset that I listened. Can someone help me understand this?