u/AnxiousAbility7551

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Fp left (but weirdly) - i’m struggling and need advice

We have all been here, it’s not my first time dealing with the loss and abandonment of someone I became attached to (except it’s different this time).

I think because of the circumstances it has made it harder to combat.

Here’s a summary of what happened;

- All went well
- Was being treated like a queen
- Received so much reassurance
- Went down hill when she bailed from wanting to change for me & said she didn’t want to lead me on with the knowledge of not knowing what she wanted with me
- Told me she was happy with not changing / not wanting to change for me
- Offered support
- Abandoned me out of fear of hurting me
- Subtly launching the fact she’s open for me to talk to & ‘it might not be the end’. She also confirmed she still likes me, but non-strict no contact is best for us.

Basically an ‘abandoned on good terms’ moment. It happened so fast. I am absolutely devastated and I want to be able to get over this. I’ve had a severe crying spell lasting for days.

I’ve never had a fp leave me on good terms, any advice on how to cope with the ‘we could’ve been’ and ‘what if thoughts’ etc..

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u/AnxiousAbility7551 — 8 days ago

Tips for inverting as a beginner

Hey guys! I’m a beginner at pole, I’ve excelled at it despite only hopping on the pole a few times. I wanna start practicing inverting, just some formation before I do any tricks.

Does anyone have any tips on how to break through that initial fear of falling and some useful info on how to stay upside down (pole grip products, strength that I need, hand placements etc).

Thanks :)

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u/AnxiousAbility7551 — 11 days ago