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I started pole recently and today I couldn’t do a single trick in class. Everyone else seemed to get it while I was the only one really struggling. I honestly left feeling embarrassed and stupid.

I’ve also got my period at the moment and felt super weak and low energy the whole class. I don’t have any dance, gymnastics or fitness background either, so I feel like I’m starting from absolute zero while everyone else already seems stronger or more coordinated.

Did anyone else feel like this at the start? I’m trying not to quit after one hard class because I really do want to get better, but tonight knocked my confidence a lot. Would really appreciate some encouragement or hearing beginner experiences from people who improved over time.

I feel I can’t even do a pole sit, I can’t get high enough and I’m quite low to the ground and it absolutely kills my thighs. The way they call the combos just doesn’t click in my mind.

I just want to get better and feel so discouraged.

EDIT: thanks guys, I got home and went to sleep feeling really crapping. I have endo too so it was just a really shitty day of pain and feeling weak (possibly just being moody from my period too 😝). Thanks for all the kind messages. It was my third class and I’m going to keep it up, even if I’m in beginners for a few terms!

For starters: The pole studio I go to is the only one in the entire region, closest studio other than the one i attend is over an hour and a half away which is unrealistically far to travel :( So a different studio isn’t on the cards.

So the majority of instructors are fantastic, the owner of the studio is incredibly skilled and super knowledgeable and i can’t fault her. I can fault that she has hired an instructor who is AWFUL, and i mean awful.

I would never bash someone for being newer to pole and not having the skills, but this should not be the case of the instructor!! She has been doing pole for a few years, can barely do beginner moves, can’t invert without fully jumping and throwing herself into it. Her technique is sloppy and incorrect for a lot of things and could be dangerous.

When I book, i actively avoid her classes, but it’s not always possible. I don’t know how to go about this, if it’s a case of talking to the owner and expressing my concerns. Or should I keep my mouth shut? I pay a lot of money to this studio per month and it’s absolutely not worth the cost if i have the shit instructor…

Advice and thoughts please 💖

Hiiii!

I'm looking for advices from fellow plus size pole dancers for my jasmine and gemini. I feel like my skin is too thick or something, it feels like my grip behind my knees can't hold well, whatever I do.

I've tried all kinds of jasmine, chalk, grip aid, nothing work, I cannot get into a gemini or shooting star because my skin can't hold.

Does anyone have any advices to get a good grip in these figures?

I know I'm hard on myself, but 3 years in sometimes I still feel like I don't have that flow that some videos I see have. I'm just wondering how long it takes to achieve that

Hey! I am getting a full sleeve tattoo next week, two day session. I was invited to a pole picknick with a photoshoot from someone from open Pole. I am so excited about the invitation! The picknick and shoot are 8 days after my tattoo session. I will definitely join for the vibes, but I would love to be a part of the shooting session too. I have never done a shooting and am at a point in my pole Journey where I just learned so many cool things that I would love to capture. It’s „only“ a 20 minute shoot for a cheap price, but I think everyone will play around with the pole outside of the shooting too.

Do you think I can take part, or should I sit this one out? Can you think of any no-arms-tricks (low intermediate) or is it just a bad idea all around?

Tricks I love right now are archer (I enter from OLH or climb -> jasmine), stargazer to ballerina (or ballerina from the ground), maybe a handstand?

My tattoo will be a fineline/ dotwork mix and is a scar cover up, so my skin could be more sensitive than healthy skin.

Anyway enjoy your day!

Hello r/poledancing I love the supportive community you've built here.

My lovely wife has taken to Pole like a fish to water over the last six months. I love the videos, poses and transitions she's shown me.

Outside of an actual pole and pleasers, do you have any gift ideas for a pole amateur who does 2-3 classes a week? Can be as simple as liquid chalk recommendations all the way to outfits, reading material and anything else you think would make a thoughtful gift.

Thank you in advance!

Hey everyone, this may be a super weird one but I’m apart of a group and we have our very first performance this weekend! I have a class with 6 other lovely ladies and we’ve become a close little group of friends and I was wanting to make something for all of us as a little momento from our very first performance. I have a 3D printer so can whip up just about anything, I was wondering if anyone had any suggestions on anything that maybe cute or handy to have in the future! We are still all babies in pole and only level 2’s. Any suggestions are welcome because I’ve tried google and they are all fairly boring ideas like make cupcakes with a little topper which I was going to make either way haha!

Thanks everyone 💗💃💗

I have been pole dancing for 2 years, pretty much only choreo classes w/heels. For a while I was super proud of my progress (I can remember whole routines now! I learned new moves!) and posting videos here and there, but now I’m like ehh that was ok. I still find myself thinking about what comes next instead of perfecting the movement. Sometimes I do something too fast or too slow, flex a foot, knee isn’t straight, stuff like that. A lot of times I look like I’m doing a routine instead of flowing. Anyone else experience this? I still love going to class but watching my videos I don’t love the result anymore.

Has anyone done one of the Fit 2 Flaunt pole retreats? I’m doing the next one in Miami and wanted to get a sense of what to expect. They sent around a general survey to help break us up into classes but I’m not sure how many levels there will be.

There are 9 workshops total and I was also wondering if there was open pole practice time.

Any insight from anyone who has gone would be great. Thanks!