u/Weak-Bumblebee9978

I left and he's been trying to get me back. My biggest gripe is a total lack of parenting of his special needs kid (down syndrome) and zero respite. Kids mom was in prison til last year, has been out for a year now. Has taken her kid overnight twice? In that entire year?

I just saw she went to a concert this past weekend. I told this guy nope. I'm not being forced to spend all my free time with your unregulated, entitled, spoiled kid while his ACTUAL MOM GOES TO CONCERTS. Ffs this bitch literally went to prison for killing someone with her car while she was drunk. But SHE gets weekends free for months at a time, sees her kid for a couple hours here and there and BD has to do all the driving and zero child support. She can't drive to pick him up from school but can drive to her boyfriend's house or to concerts etc.

He clapped back at me yesterday cuz I haven't been talking to him and said he actually had a "kid free weekend".... On Sunday he told me this. And it's mother's Day weekend. So she actually took her kid for mother's day? But he didn't tell me til the weekend was over and I had to work anyway. He never gets any advance notice when he'll be kid free so we can never plan anything.

I imagine he went to a strip club instead and then tried to get me to come over so he could fuck me after oogling them, a favorite past time of his. I told him off.

The more time goes on, the more pathetic he looks and the less I miss him or that life at all. He's a lazy dad, a lazy partner, and a lazy lover.

I worked all weekend and now I'm off all week (my normal schedule) and I'm gonna enjoy my kid free peace and quiet. I'm not coming second best to a murdering baby mama for some dude who can't even go down on me and expects me to give up my entire life for his child. Nope.

If you're on the fence about this life: do not do it. I've wasted 4 years of my life I'll never get back and lost so much more throughout the process. I can literally say I think I hate him, but apathy is really winning out most of the time.

Just venting.

I don't like kids. I don't have kids. I live in a 1 bedroom apartment in a building with other 1 bedrooms. My 1 bedroom has a "sunroom", a tiny little room with 3 windows on one side that gets down to freezing in the winter. A twin bed will barely fit in there.

So tell me why a family with a 2 year old is moving in under me? I can already hear the kid screaming and running and banging onto the walls and they haven't even officially moved in yet?

I'm pissed. God I just want to be left TF alone without some screaming bratling ruining my day. I work from home too so this is going to royally effing suck. I'm considering moving already.