My f34 and my fiancé m31 got into an argument two mornings in ago and I’m really confused
My (f34) and my fiancé m(31) got into an argument two mornings ago.I woke up and came into the living room, there was a cup of iced tea and a bag of food on the table. I seen they had their drink so I automatically assumed the one on the table was for me, as they normally get me one with them when they come home from work.
I peeked quickly into the bag for a straw didn’t see one and so I just took the lid off and drank it because I had just woken up and was very thirsty. I then put our kids at the table for breakfast. Our youngest started to grab at the bag of food, so I took it into the kitchen, I looked into it and seen a fruit cup and thought it was for the kids because he often comes home with food from there and gets them fruit cups. I realized though there was a sandwich in there with it and I asked whose it was. He said it was his so I left it be on the counter. A few minutes later I went to take the dog out and I felt that something was off and asked if he was upset with me. He immediately stated going on about how they were tired of me feeling so entitled to everything then got upset with me and said that it was disgusting that I just grabbed it without even asking. I apologized and explained I didn’t mean to come off entitled I had just assumed because he’s gotten us food and drinks before and left it on the counter. He asked how I even knew it was for me since I didn’t ask, and I again said I didn’t I had simply assumed. Again apologized because I didn’t want to fight and he’s right I should have asked first. Later in the day he woke up from resting and told me that the food in the bag and the drink were meant for me. I was left feeling like my head was reeling and I just couldn’t grasp reality at all and I still feel so uneasy after it. The next day I brought it up an how I wanted an apology because the way he acted over something that was indeed mine was not okay. He proceeded ti tel me that I just got into it like it was and me
Just expecting it to be mine was what was disgusting. I didn’t get into the bag immediately, I didn’t until I moved it from the baby’s reach, and when I did I asked who’s it was once I realized it wasn’t for the kids. He said I never said that and that I never asked until way later. Out camera actually proved that I asked two minutes after I got the drink who the food belonged to. Which he then changed his reason for being upset was that I just didn’t ask and when I got the drink I didn’t even say anything to him, no thank you or anything In the two minutes I had the drink.
Before it’s asked, no that is not a thing, I always say think you when he gets me stuff it’s the first thing out of my mouth normally, I didn’t tat mornin because I was still super out of it and groggy and immediately went into mom mode to get the kids fed and ready for daycare so i forgot. I just feel like the whole ordeal was so confusing and its left me feeling more unsafe and on eggshells than anything.
I keep questioning so much and I can’t help but think that this isn’t how your partner should treat you over something like this. Is this how healthy partners treat one another?