u/AnyAbbreviations9803

My child has a permanent disabled placard . I havent used it almost the entire school year at his siblings drop off because it gets way too congested and people will not give you space to pull out causing me to be late for his drop off. Since he can safely walk a a couple blocks, we just walk from the car and back.

Fast forward to this week, my child was in the hospital for 2 weeks for major brain surgery and is now using a wheel chair and we need to be close, have space for getting in and out so I need to access the parking lot and accessible parking spot. I tried to pull into the parking lot and the supervisor refused. I showed him the placard hanging in the window and he said he didn't care. Parents are no longer allowed ( this is not the faculty lot). I told him my son just got out of surgery and that he has to let me in to access the parking lot. He the said "the bell doesn't even ring for 5 minutes (!!)" I had to explain i need time to unload my kid and blah blah blah ( I cant believe I was actually rationalizing being their 5 minutes early. He ended up moving the cones and telling me I needed to park in a "normal" spot, which I ignored because we have a placard!. I ended up letting it blow over because I was already having a bad day ( mail was stolen while in hospital, including my sons disability card which was drained) and I wanted to cool down.

Next comes Tuesday. While waiting to make a left into the lot , a new supervisor walks into the middle of the road and asks why I am there, I tell him to pick up my kids and he says go park somewhere else, you can't park here. I point to my placard and say he has to let me in. He turns around and makes a hand motion ( like cone here) so I initiate the turn and he doesn't move the cones leaving me blocking the sidewalk and partially into the road. I tried to tell him this could lead to a civil rights and he walks away to call the school cop who after a few minutes of conversation finally gets him to move the cones ( I literally had to ask if it was safe to have this conversation while my car was the way it was) .

This interaction took over 9 minutes, and I only know that because I started recording and that's the length of the recording. By the time I parked the bell had rang and I needed to push my child in his chair through a crowd of middle schoolers who are just at the age of not paying attention to the fact that I have a person in a wheelchair with me. The thing I was trying to avoid coming a whoping 5 to 10 minutes early.

After this interaction I was pretty upset so I tried to reach out to the principal. After a bit of waiting for a return call, I decided to reach out to the district while it was fresh on my mind. The person who I spoke to was in shock I even needed to explain myself after showing the placard. He assured me it wouldn't happen again and said he would call the school.

Wednesday I received a call from the principal saying it wouldn't happen again and that he told the supervisor to let me in and asked if I am always in the same car. I asked if I could have the name of employee 1 so I could tell the person at the district and he said no and that his employees names are private! He also said I'm not allowed to film the staff and I need to ask their permission first. (I am in CA and this was literally from the sidewalk, not even on school grounds). A little later the person from the district called to let me know he talked to the principal and everything is good now. I let him knkw what the principal told me and he said that those things are not true.

Later on at pick up, employee 1 from Monday is yelling at me that I can not park there. I told him he is violating my sons civil rights and he said he doesn't care. I called the school and asked them to radio him and explained it is happening again. They radio him, he moves it and flips me the bird in my rear view mirror.

As I am waiting I see him moving the cones blocking the exit and he is taking the cart toward my car. Seems odd so I pull out my phone to record. He pulls up to say "Hey lady. I just want to let you know you are mean and rude.." I say " I am mean and rude? Why?". "Yes you are mean and rude because you are filming me and making a big deal about this parking thing". I told him you are violating my sons civil rights as a protected person and I said I was going to send it to the superintendent. He said he doesnt care about civil rights and he hopes I do send it to the superintendent.

After leaving the school, I left a message to the principal and called the district again. I spoke with the superintendent secretary. She made a joke about it sounding like I'm trying to get into Camp Pendleton, said it was ridiculous and said she was forwarding it all to HR and that someone would reach out.

Now to today, I see #1 crossing kids in the school lot and taking pictures of me and the car ( I don't really care about that, je can take all he wants) just seems inappropriate having his phone out on the job and showing students things on his phone.

I am wondering if I am pushing this too much. I am also wondering would this have happened if I was a man. I definitely don't think he would have approached me the way he did if I was. I never raised my voice, called names or said anything inappropriate. I never want to be the parent from hell either. I also believe I am not that lucky for me to be the only one this happens to multiple times in a row. Once, is a mistake, 2 times is a pattern that makes me think I can not be the only one, I'm just the only one not accepting the BS . It makes me want to sent a couple relatives with up in the back to see if it happens again. I feel I am excited to talk to HR about all of this, not because I like to see people getting in trouble, but I hate when people are treated poorly even when the person who is doing it had an opportunity to correct the behavior.

I also noticed the employee 1 appears to have a nazi eagle tattoo on his arm and I want to point that out too. If it is, I really dont care what kind of trouble he gets in.