u/AnyGuarantee2603

How long should you be in the getting to know each other phase? When do things start to become more serious? Like after how long, a month in, or two, or even more?

My married brothers in Islam, I have a question for you. When do you guys know if she’s the one? Is it right away when you lay your eyes on her, like first sight? Or is it after talking for a while? Does it matter where you’re at in life (financially secure, life figured out etc)?

I matched with this guy on Muzz. I was very much into him, I thought he could be the one. There were red flags I didn’t catch on, for example, he said he was surprised to learn from me that people actually get married because of the app. I thought I could change that over time, but I guess he didn’t feel the same way about me. He’s confused on what he wants from life. I ended things with him because of his confusion. I also know that men know what kind of woman they want, and if they see one, they’ll lock down asap regardless of where they’re at, or how confused they are about life. So I guess he just wasn’t into me, he didn’t see me as a future wife, because I am not what he’s looking for. This realization hurts, it hurts a lot, to not be your types type.

I 26F am talking to this one guy(27), we never met in real life and we never called either since we want to keep it as halal as possible. We get along well, and have been talking for I believe a month. He’s too confused about his life. He’s deciding if he wants to stay in the west or move to a Muslim country. He’s deciding if he wants to marry a girl from the west or back home, since they’re more willing to relocate. He also has visa issues and uncertainty around it. I asked him what we are, and he gave me a confusing answer. Whys he talking to me if he’s doesn’t know what he wants in life?