u/AnyResponsibility897

Im having a lot of mixed feelings.
I finally trusted my gut and asked my friend if something happened between them and she admitted my ex did try to kiss her one night while they were drunk. Supposedly they agreed it was wrong because she was my friend. My ex then asked her not to tell me anything because nothing ended up happening, but I still feel like she should have told me, or at least my ex.

We planned a spiritual trip to Peru (ayahuasca included), so I’m having a hard time deciding if I should be fine considering we weren’t really together or heartbroken because she’s my friend. lol.

Help.

edit: this was last month. I just found out now.

On a cursed day, while I was taking a shower, an evil thought occurred in my head: “I hate the way she has a hold on me. Why does she get to walk freely and leave me so traumatized? I need to fight back. I’m not gonna let it go with no consequences. “

I wish I could time travel and tell myself not to do it. They’re traumatized enough for life. And in the end you’ll look like a fool because you’ve literally transformed into what they were accusing you of. You lowered to their level.

I feel so brainwashed by her. Like she created such a version of me in her head that she managed to contorce reality and make it real, you know?

Anyway, save yourself the time to heal, not to leave a deeper scar in them. It’s not worth it. You’re better than that, unfortunately I wasn’t.

I (27F) was recently in a 5 year relationship so I’m a bit outdated with the single life, but I feel like a lot has changed?

A lot of my single male friends have been telling me it’s hard to get hook ups these days, and a lot of my female friends have been saying that they can’t get sexual without an emotional connection. Don’t get me wrong, I super understand it, but I can also separe things and want to satisfy my body without getting attached. A lot of you say you go for toys.. but it’s not the same for me. I need to feel the physical passion.

Care to update me? Is there anybody who is satisfied with just sex or do you need time to create a connection and then have something serious? I feel like 6 years ago it was much easier to find casual sex.

Thanks!