AITA for going to my sister instead of my girlfriend when hurt ?
I , 15m , have been dating a girl called Gracie , 15f , for like a day and a half. Brand new relationship. I have a twin sister called Holly , 15f , who is my worst enemy/bestfriend. (love my sister but we drive each other insane most days.
Ok so , yesterday , I had a school hurling match. Only two of my mates are on the school team with me. I play mid field , though that doesn’t really matter in the story. My year and first year and second year (this is an Irish school btw) , were watching the match. When I was playing , one of my teammates hit the sliotar across the pitch to me but I was turned around , facing the coach , the sliotar hit me right in the back of the neck , right below my helmet. A sliotar is like a rock hard small ball. It hurt like hell and I had a massive headache after it. I’m kinda embarrassed by this but I cried a small bit because it obviously was super painful. Anyways , I was taken off the pitch and got an icepack. I walked to where my friends who weren’t apart of the match and my sister and her friends. Gracie was a good few metres away. At that point I was still crying a little so Holly hugged me and I hugged her back.
When the match ended , everyone went back to class but I went home early because my neck was killing me. When I got home , I studied a bit and took a nap because I love naps , fuck you if you think naps are stupid. Anyways , I woke up to a message from Gracie , saying “Are you ok ?” Which was nice of her so I replied back with “Yeah , I’m fine”. Straight away she typed back “It was kinda weird how you went to your sister and not me when you were hurt“. I was lowk surprised by this because me and Gracie were still in the awkward phase of dating. I replied back with “Well , it’s cuz she’s my sister , I was hurt and it made more sense to go to her than you since we haven’t really talked anything abt emotions“. She left me on read , so now I‘m wondering how bad I fucked up. AITA ?
UPDATE : So I didn’t break up with Gracie , it was only one disagreement and i really like her. There’s another problem though and this time it’s probably my fault.
Every Friday , me and my friends go into town and hang out. Most teenagers in our town do. Most of the time , my friend group meets up with my sisters friend group , there’s 8 of us guys and 7 girls. We get on well because obviously we‘re all out of the “only be friends with the same gender“ phase. Gracie is not in Holly’s friend group , she usually hangs out with her friends from a different school. Tbh I‘m not a big fan of Gracie’s friends , they‘re very pick me-ish. Gracie asked me to hang out with her and her friends. I think I’d die from cringing and boredom if I hung out with them for more than an hour. Gracie’s friends are so unfunny it’s sad , like they try to hard especially when my friend ,Éanna (pronounced ay-nah) , is around. Éanna is a super sweet , funny dude. He‘s my best friend. He looks like a model. Gracie’s friends laugh way too hard at his jokes and are always fawning over him , it’s embarrassing. Éanna is gay but he’s closeted. Anyways , I asked Gracie if she and her friends wanted to join us instead so all of our friends can meet. She shut down that idea fast saying that she didn’t get on well with Amy , my sister bff . So I said that there will be more than 20 of us if her friends come so she wouldn’t have to talk to Amy. She didn’t like that idea as well so I gave up and decided I‘d be honest. I told her that I wasn’t really comfortable with her friends because of some of the homophobic jokes they’ve said. She got defensive quick and asked why does it matter if it doesn’t affect me. I got a little quiet after that , thinking of Éanna , and i think i was quiet for to long so she got weirdly affended and asked me if I was Bi. It took me a while to answer because I’m not sure yet , I’m only 15 and I’m not ready to put a label on my sexuality like that. Instead of just telling her that , like an idiot I said “why does it matter ?” in a tone that was to snappy and rude. I guess I just thought she was being homophobic for a second. She was clearly upset by my tone and got up and left. I’ll call her later to apologise but right now I’ll give time. I know I shouldn‘t have spoken to her like that. Am I Completely in the wrong ?I , 15m , have been dating a girl called Gracie , 15f , for like a day and a half. Brand new relationship. I have a twin sister called Holly , 15f , who is my worst enemy/bestfriend. (love my sister but we drive each other insane most days.
Ok so , yesterday , I had a school hurling match. Only two of my mates are on the school team with me. I play mid field , though that doesn’t really matter in the story. My year and first year and second year (this is an Irish school btw) , were watching the match. When I was playing , one of my teammates hit the sliotar across the pitch to me but I was turned around , facing the coach , the sliotar hit me right in the back of the neck , right below my helmet. A sliotar is like a rock hard small ball. It hurt like hell and I had a massive headache after it. I’m kinda embarrassed by this but I cried a small bit because it obviously was super painful. Anyways , I was taken off the pitch and got an icepack. I walked to where my friends who weren’t apart of the match and my sister and her friends. Gracie was a good few metres away. At that point I was still crying a little so Holly hugged me and I hugged her back.
When the match ended , everyone went back to class but I went home early because my neck was killing me. When I got home , I studied a bit and took a nap because I love naps , fuck you if you think naps are stupid. Anyways , I woke up to a message from Gracie , saying “Are you ok ?” Which was nice of her so I replied back with “Yeah , I’m fine”. Straight away she typed back “It was kinda weird how you went to your sister and not me when you were hurt“. I was lowk surprised by this because me and Gracie were still in the awkward phase of dating. I replied back with “Well , it’s cuz she’s my sister , I was hurt and it made more sense to go to her than you since we haven’t really talked anything abt emotions“. She left me on read , so now I‘m wondering how bad I fucked up. AITA ?
UPDATE : So I didn’t break up with Gracie , it was only one disagreement and i really like her. There’s another problem though and this time it’s probably my fault.
Every Friday , me and my friends go into town and hang out. Most teenagers in our town do. Most of the time , my friend group meets up with my sisters friend group , there’s 8 of us guys and 7 girls. We get on well because obviously we‘re all out of the “only be friends with the same gender“ phase. Gracie is not in Holly’s friend group , she usually hangs out with her friends from a different school. Tbh I‘m not a big fan of Gracie’s friends , they‘re very pick me-ish. Gracie asked me to hang out with her and her friends. I think I’d die from cringing and boredom if I hung out with them for more than an hour. Gracie’s friends are so unfunny it’s sad , like they try to hard especially when my friend ,Éanna (pronounced ay-nah) , is around. Éanna is a super sweet , funny dude. He‘s my best friend. He looks like a model. Gracie’s friends laugh way too hard at his jokes and are always fawning over him , it’s embarrassing. Éanna is gay but he’s closeted. Anyways , I asked Gracie if she and her friends wanted to join us instead so all of our friends can meet. She shut down that idea fast saying that she didn’t get on well with Amy , my sister bff . So I said that there will be more than 20 of us if her friends come so she wouldn’t have to talk to Amy. She didn’t like that idea as well so I gave up and decided I‘d be honest. I told her that I wasn’t really comfortable with her friends because of some of the homophobic jokes they’ve said. She got defensive quick and asked why does it matter if it doesn’t affect me. I got a little quiet after that , thinking of Éanna and how if her friends made the homophobic jokes again , he’d be hurt , and i think i was quiet for to long so she got weirdly affended and asked me if I was Bi. It took me a while to answer because I’m not sure yet , I’m only 15 and I’m not ready to put a label on my sexuality like that. Instead of just telling her that , like an idiot I said “why does it matter ?” in a tone that was to snappy and rude. I guess I just thought she was being homophobic for a second. She was clearly upset by my tone and got up and left. I’ll call her later to apologise but right now I’ll give time. I know I shouldn‘t have spoken to her like that. Am I Completely in the wrong ?