u/ApplePie-2000

Hi everyone. I’m looking for some outside perspective on a situation with my girlfriend.

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The other night, my girlfriend and I had a conversation that started because she was complaining about a recent evening where I had a severe migraine attack and chose to leave the group to find some peace and quiet.

Because of this, I tried to open up to her. I explained that my body hasn’t been functioning very well lately and that I’ve been dealing with a lot of symptoms that are heavily impacting my daily life. When I listed what I’ve been going through, her first response was to ask if I’d seen a doctor or tried certain techniques to fix it.

I gently explained to her that I didn't need her to solve the problem or find solutions for me; I just needed to know that she could be there for me as emotional support.

Her reaction honestly stunned me. She told me that "as long as it didn't impact her life, it was okay." I was so caught off guard that I asked her if she only wanted to be around me for the good times. She said no, but the comment still left me feeling really dismissed and cast aside. To make matters worse, later that same evening, she came over to my house bringing a bottle of alcohol, even though she knows perfectly well that I am currently on a strict diet for my health.

I’m feeling really hurt and a bit isolated right now. How would you interpret this reaction, and how should I approach talking to her about how much this hurt?

Thank you in advance for your insights.

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All of this has put me in a complete mental shutdown. I spent the evening doomscrolling to avoid the meltdown, and I can't. I'm in a state of shock and distress, but I don't know who to talk to.

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