u/Apprehensive_Fail350

I know the answer is clear: work on yourself. I will, actually, I'm doing it the best I can already, but I was thinking: how should I go about approaching women from now on?

I'm not trying to predict the future here, but should I forget about flirting, asking girls out and meeting new people until I feel more satisfied with who I am? Or should I try to meet people and flirt while I'm trying to improve myself?

I try to focus on myself but oftentimes I feel like hanging out with my female friend in hopes that she will like me somehow. I wasn't aware of that until a couple of days ago, and the crave for female attention decreased a lot. Specially when I realised that, for the biggest part, I wanted to attract her to feel better with myself. I

But I still keep having those moments where I want to have something special with girls because of sexual intimacy, affection or to experience being loved by someone, not to cope with lack of confidence.

Should I respond to those thoughts while I work at myself? Or would it be better to put all of my time and effort on improving for now?

I keep hearing that in order to find someone you should just live the moment, have fun, not care if someone likes you, etc. But in the same time I've heard that you gotta take the risks to asking people out or confesing to someone. I'm kind of confused about all this since I tend to go black-or-white about a lot of things.

When should I just have fun and not focus my attention on whether this person is into me or not, and when should I make a move??? Should I look out for certain signs? Whether that is what the other person says or what I feel in the inside?

I've heard about people who ended up meeting their partners by just sharing time together without thinking about being liked or like almost accepting that the other person weren't into them whatsoever. I would say I heard the opposite too, people who just were honest about what they felt and took the risk of telling the other person, but I cannot recall any concrete example rn.

The two approaches are appealing and I like to do what just feels natural and right in the moment, not trying to "figure out" the perfect strategy out of them. But a little bit of clarity into these ideas would help a lot, I guess.

Mínimo relación +3 años, por que conocer yo tambien conocí pero no duran mas de un año y monedas.

Me refiero a gente que se haya metido a la app con el único motivo de encontrar pareja seria, pero si se la descargo para boludear o garchar y de repente se encontró con alguien para formar algo mas romántico, te la acepto también.

Si podés indicar la edad de la persona mejor porque creo que eso tambien entra bastante en juego con mi duda.

Disclaimer: puede parecer que el post sea mala leche pero es con la curiosidad genuina de que realmente no conozco ni conozco a nadie que conozca gente que le haya salido bien lo de buscar relaciones serias en tinder.