u/ArcticIron

Gf of 5 years dumped me randomly.

4 months later she wanted to get back together

I wasn’t able to get any other girl past 4 months. Women kept rejecting and ghosting me. So I was desperate.

So I got back together but we use condoms now as she told me she hooked with over 10 different men in the 4 months.

I thought this just be sex. But mentally it feels humiliating. As she keeps confusing sex stuff with the 10+ men she slept with.

Examples she asked be to do some thing with my tongue that made her orgasm. And I’m like ummm I never did that. And then she’s oh sorry that was another man.

And then recently I started growing my mustache because most of the relationship she kept begging me to grow mine.

But then when she noticed I was growing it and she’s like ew don’t do that. I hate kissing men with mustaches which seems one of the 10 men had a mustache.

I lost my virginity at 24.

Before I lost it everyone men kept asking me if I ever had a gf and if I was a virgin.

And girls I would talk with would also seem to know I’m a virgin but they were more kinder when asking

Then I lost my virginity a few months and had my first relationship. Relationship only last a few weeks.

But ever since that happened never had anyone ask again if I was a virgin. Women no longer think I’m a virgin

But I don’t feel any different. And I don’t think I act any different

So what exactly changed? How did people know I was a virgin before and how do they know I’m not now?

My ex gf dumped me two months ago.

Then she came back.

I was still in love so took her back. Also helped that she was the hottest girl I ever dated.

Problem is she did admit she slept with 5 different men after we broke up.

I thought I wouldn’t care as we are back together now.

But I tried having sex with her last night. She’s still hot and I thought it be like before. But it just felt gross and I ended up vomiting afterwards.

It just feels gross because I keep thinking she sucked another man D, had him finish in her mouth. Had other men inside her.

She also kisses different now and has Sex differently which makes me feel more gross because I know it’s because of the other men.

And it doesn’t even make sense because it’s not like she was a virgin when I first met her. She had been with like over 20 different men before I ever got into a relationship with her

But for some reason it’s somehow gross now.

Is this normal feeling when getting back within an ex?
Do you eventually get over this?

I know there’s the cliche that losing your virginity makes you a man.

But have you noticed your fear of danger go away after you lost your virginity? Or maybe it’s just a coincidence.

Because before I had a major fear of heights, would get scared easily, and freeze and go numb when in a dangerous situation.

But after getting into my first relationship and losing my virginity. I no longer have a fear of heights. Actually feels fun now.

And even in very real dangerous situations I feel excited and ready to confront them instead of freezing and going numb.

So is this normal for men to experience?

I have been in a relationship with this woman for awhile.

Problem is that she seems to always argue and cry allot in the relationship. She always finds a way to complain about something.

This wasn’t a problem before because everything else in my life was going well. So I could tolerate if without a problem.

But recently I’ve been having problems at work and stress. Have a bunch of projects I need to complete next 6 months. If it goes well I get promoted and get my dream job. If I fail I might get fired.

So I’m thinking of just breaking up as I feel too stressed from work to deal with her now.

But will I regret it later if I dump her for work?

Guys who chose their work over their gf, did you regret it later?