u/Arkana-1

I've recently come to terms with the end of my relationship. I have been obsessed with my darling for over a month even after it ended. I was keeping tabs on everything they did, making sure I knew everything. I knew the intensity of the emotions was real. Now I want to let them go for both our sakes. It feels like I'm betraying my darling though. My love is still there but I know I should let go so that we can both be happy.

Does that make me not yandere? I am fully committed but maybe I shouldn't be if it's not in the interest of my Darling. What do you all think?

Edit for context: my darling just left me out of the blue a bit over a month ago. I've been hoping for us to get back together since then. Everyone is telling me to move on though and I'm struggling with it because it doesn't feel right. I still feel our connection very strongly.

So a few weeks ago my darling all of a sudden left me. She told me she loved me but it wasn't enough and that it was too much for her and that she needed to figure out what she really wanted and focus on her career instead of our relationship.

I couldn't change her mind then so I accepted the break up because if my darling needs some space and time to herself then I can't deny her that. After all I only want what is best for my darling, I want her to be happy.

She hasn't contacted me since but I see the sort of stuff she likes on social media and recently it's been a lot of marriage and family oriented stuff. Also things we both talked about wanting one day. And most of all posts about "right person, wrong time".

I haven't contacted her either because I don't want to pressure her and lose her forever. I want to give it time after all she is kind of yandere too and her breaking things off was very out of character and sudden. I'm convinced she'll come back to me eventually. It's hard to just wait though, I want to go out and do something to win her back but everyone around me is telling me to just not say or do anything.

How would you all handle this situation? Am I really doing the right thing by doing nothing and focusing on growing and healing myself first right now?

Just wondering who here has already found their special someone, reciprocal or not. And what it is that made you choose them.

I'm interested to know how it compares to me.

When I found her, what immediately drew me in was that we seemed to be on the same wavelength, the same attachment style and the way her eyes made me feel like I was falling just by looking at them. Of course there is more but for here I'll keep it short and sweet.