Feeling like closest friends switch up on me and start hating me for no reason.
This is gonna be long but I really need help with this and would appreciate it if others Aspies share their experiences with me.
For starters, I have been diagnosed with ADHD, Anxiety, MDD, and only recently I got diagnosed with ASD1 (Mid twenties).
I am someone who is really extroverted (At least my ADHD side) of course that lasts till the lovely burnout kicks in, studying in one of the top 10 Universities isn the world, working from home, so I would like to think that I am not stupid I am sharing this since at least there’s no way to measure and share how “good” or “bad” I am socially.
As the title suggests, I feel like every time I am friends with someone/ a group of friends, it ends up the same way, always!
If I am friends with someone, I introduce them to my friends, a couple of months down the line a small mistake coming from me or even from someone else towards me, the friendship is gone, they all stay friends tho.
If it was a group of friends even better, I don’t have to introduce them to anyone, they just switch up on me one day and it always comes from the person who I am closest to in the group.
Now to give examples of situations that I had, the first was some dude who I barely knew was talking sh about me for months in front of my friends, I didn’t wanna dig into the fact why was he comfortable doing so at least until I confront him (since my friends were not the ones who told me that he was talking behind my back) and after confronting him they all came at me for not being nice and “overreacting” by confronting him in front of everyone and embarrassing him that way.
Second situation which I am currently going through rn is that one of my friends had some really tough period and she was using me as a source of energy/healing the whole time. she complained to me everyday, had someone to talk to, to be there physically for her when she had panic attacks and guess what, she heals, she starts going out again with the group, and now she is complaining about the smallest things I do. for example: asking for a hit of the vape that btw I got her when she was going through shit to everyone! (I literally asked once or twice)
These might sound like teenage problems which is exactly what I think, that these kinda things shouldn’t have happened or snowballed in the first place, but the moment you try to stop it you are the villain that ruined everyones good time and the opportunity for a drama to develop.
You shouldn’t demand respect, neither u r gonna redeem it, you should just live with it and agree with their way of dealing with things (rolling that snowball down).
I don’t know if at this point I am venting overthinking or I need help figuring this out, I feel like NTs feed on gossip, drama etc…
It would be really nice to hear what ya’ll think, and if you have been there share your experiences, and no I don’t mind being criticized so throw it at me in the comments.