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I've been to crater lake a few times and it was always just for a few hours. My spouse and I have a trip coming up where we'll be gone for 4 days. He's never been to crater lake so that's what we're looking at.

Is it worth 4 days, with what's currently open? Driving there will only be about 3 hours for us each way.

We like hiking, camping (plenty of sites available on our dates), and breweries, and will probably have a dog with us.

Hello, im new to the area and my spouse LOVES 4th of July so we're trying to figure out what to do. We enjoy small town festivals but small cities like corvallis/ Eugene are also fine. He's big on fireworks. We love live music but I am absolutely not going to see yet another shitty country cover band - i am happy to see all the shitty rock/pop cover bands 🙂

Any idea if theres any 4th of July events that fit our wants? Tl;dr - fireworks with live music that isn't country, and somewhere not Portland.

Hello, im new to the area and my spouse LOVES 4th of July so we're trying to figure out what to do. We enjoy small town festivals but small cities like corvallis/ Eugene are also fine. He's big on fireworks. We love live music but I am absolutely not going to see yet another shitty country cover band - i am happy to see all the shitty rock/pop cover bands 🙂

Any idea if theres any 4th of July events that fit our wants? Tl;dr - fireworks with live music that isn't country, and somewhere not Portland.

Sorry if this has been asked before. I finished watching yesterday after a 3 day binge - I've been scrolling the reddit to get my questions answered and y'all have delivered on most of them. Last outstanding question for me:

We learned that the work mark S is doing is >!sorting data related to Gemma, constructing her different innies.!< and thank you reddit for helping to explain all of that.

Is that exactly the same work they're all doing? Are all 4 of the MDR crew >!sorting out Gemma data? Or are they all sorting data about a different person?!<

Thanks in advance for your thoughts. I know it'll all become clearer on a rewatch also.

No spoilers. I just started watching Severance, I'm on episode 6. There's lots of things about this that resonate with me. Not so much the premise of having 2 selves (although that is a whole thing too) but the way things are for the work self. I haven't seen much, but from what I've seen, people who are in it are definitely not supposed to ask questions or try to leave. And the people suppressing critical thinking and free will are doing it with this air of plastic fake kindness. That's familiar to me.

Has anyone else watched and felt this? I can't wait to keep watching and see if it continues to line up with the experience of being inside evangelicalism.

I am new at this. Long story shorts, there's discussions about selling some property. I feel very strongly one way, but I also want to be sure that the congregation is making the decision that's best for the congregation and not just going with what they think the pastor wants. I also don't want to be accused of steamrolling or trying to push the congregation towards what I want against their desires. Does that make sense?

Should I be pretty clear about my opinion on it? Or stay quiet and let them figure it out?

( I know there are going to be a series of meetings where we talk about this with folks and give them a chance to express their misgivings, and I would like to be able to tactfully share with them why I am in favor in a way that addresses the things that they are worried about. But I also want to make sure that people know their opinions are valid as well and that I will defer to whatever the congregation decides.)

Does anyone know what to expect? Facebook is pretty vague. Some news articles said there'll be trivia, karaoke, music... but no schedule. Is this a "sit down and watch what's on the stage" event or a "walk around and see all the stuff" event? Or both? I'm going to keep searching but thought I'd ask here. Thanks in advance!

I just moved to a new area 6 months ago and there's stuff happening where I could meet people...BUT... it's a really red area. I'm leery about going to local events to meet people and having to deal with misogyny, queerphobia, etc.

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How can i seek out events and groups that aren't full of Christian nationalists in Christian nationalist country?

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My internship pastor hated going to visit shut-ins, nursing home folks, hospitals, the grieving, etc because he felt like it was beneath him. Pastoral care is important to me, and I swore I would never be like him! I have a mental health background (80% of a counseling masters, have been a therapist, thought about being a chaplain) and pastoral care is important to me.

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And now here we are. For whatever reason, I just rarely get out to visit folks and bring them communion. When people schedule appointments to come visit me at my office for pastoral care, that's wonderful. I just struggle to get out to visit my homebound and lonely parishioners very often. I usually visit 1-2 families a month 😭😭😭 i find it very meaningful when i actually go. So it isn't that I don't like doing it.

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My therapist thinks it might be because I struggle with having clear guidelines on what is and isn't pastoral counseling, bc of my mental health background and knowing it's not mental health counseling. I don't know if that's really it.

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I have tried blocking out times on my calendar to go do visits; designating a day of the week as my pastoral care day; giving myself an amount of visits to do per week... my problem is that I've said, for instance, I have the capacity for 3 pastoral care visits a week. But then people come to my office and I end up having 3 pastoral care visits at my office and then I feel like I've maxed my emotional capacity for it. (Maybe that's where the issue is.) I have excellent time management in general (i worked full time while getting my Mdiv full time; I had to) and in my head, going out to visit is a priority. But my actions clearly are at odds with what I think my values are.

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Help? Anyone else?

I feel like we are often talking about the things that were better "back in our day." Movies, music, TV, etc.

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So I'm asking: what are the positive changes? What's better now than it was then?

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A couple come to my mind -

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1, I just love that the trope of a married couple who legit despise each other is going away. I love that we get to see more and more media depicting longtime couples who communicate well and enjoy each other's company.

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2, also happy to see that the relationship trope of "husband always wants sex, wife hates physical intimacy, but she owes it to him so she suffers through it sometimes" is on its way out.

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3, of course, queer visibility and normalizing lgbtq identities and relationships is sooooo much better now than it was when we were growing up.

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What else is better now?

Does this happen to anyone else? Every time there's something in the news about evangelicals being evangelicals, I react as the gif of buddy the elf going "that's shocking!" (It's meant to be sarcastic, because evangelicals behaving as predictably as they always do is not at all shocking.)

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Meanwhile, my friends and family who have never been evangelical act like Ron Burgundy when he says "I am SHOCKED. And OFFENDED. And... and HURT!" And I'm just over here like...um... what...? Have you not been paying attention...?

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But then i remember that no, they haven't been paying attention, because aside from the occasional headlines this is all they know about the cult we all escaped from. It's just weird and unsettling to me every time it happens.

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YES, OF COURSE THE SBC WON'T CHANGE THEIR TUNE ON WOMEN, what - like- did anyone actually reasonsbly think they would???

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And also maybe it bugs me because it's like... why did you never care about this until the news told you to??

For those of us who remain Christian but not evangelical... and who want to continue having Christian music in our lives but not support the artists who are (homophobic; misogynistic; MAGA; etc)...

What songwriters and artists should we avoid? I know anything hillsong related is out, for instance. Who else?

Thanks in advance.

(Flip side - if you know of any artists and songwriters who are pro LGBTQ, for instance, I would love to know who they are so I can support them.)

I'm paranoid that someone will steal my idea/ all the work I put into research and publish it themselves. I'm thrilled that people are interested but scared to share. Thoughts? This is an approved masters thesis, only "published" in that there's a bound copy in the library at my school.

Thanks in advance for any insights!

I just finished my masters degree last year and my paper was accepted at an academic conference. I am presenting this weekend. I've never done this before so I don't know what is reasonable or professional for me to expect.

My 2 main questions:

Should I expect that I will have access to a screen? In other words should I be making a PowerPoint for my 15 minute presentation? I have asked the people who let me know my paper was accepted, and have gotten no response from them. (For context, there are three or four of us presenting on similar topics and then there will be a panel discussion afterwards.)

Is it completely unreasonable to expect that you have the schedule for a conference within, I don't know, a week of the event? I just realized I can only cancel my registration for this weekend's event 7 days or more in advance.. but we are now two days away and I don't have the schedule. As I am trying to arrange transportation and coverage, it seems a little unreasonable to me but I don't know if this is just typical. Aside from knowing what time I present on saturday, I have zero information about this conference's schedule of events. There is no information online.

(I used to be an administrative assistant who assisted phds in booking and getting reimbursed for their academic conferences... in the STEM world that I was a part of, there was always an abundance of information well in advance to be able to justify and support attending conferences. I now work in the humanities and it's just blowing my mind that this lack of information could be acceptable.)

(Context: did not grow up evangelical; joined evangelical school in high school; left 20 years ago. Im a woman and purity culture did a number on me.)

Something finally hit me tonight as incredibly ironic. When I was in the middle of it as a teenage girl, getting the messaging telling me that I was responsible for men's lust etc, and that i had to be excessively modest but still somehow attractive...

If clothes were sexy/ flattering, they were NOT comfortable for me.

Nowadays, I'm completely separated from it all. I'm married to someone who was never evangelical, and did not go through purity culture. I have a volatile relationship with clothes - I am horribly indecisive and constantly struggling to figure out what I want to wear (in addition to having dimensions that make it hard to even find clothes i CAN wear). My spouse always says that the most important thing is that clothes are comfortable. Tonight i realized:

If clothes aren't sexy/flattering to my husband, they are NOT comfortable for me. 🙄🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

Oh the joys of all the paradoxical garbage they drilled into us. It took so much work for me to get past the idea that I should never be sexy to anyone ever... and now I'm still sometimes basically immobilized by the idea that I must always be sexy to my spouse. (He, BTW, always claims i am sexy, even when i know for a fact I look like garbage!)

Anyone else experience this?

I just recently moved here from the Midwest. When I lived there, my annual solo birthday trip was to Lake Superior. Every year I visited different pieces of it, with the goal of one day covering all the (publicly accessible) pieces of shoreline and islands. I mixed it up with backpacking trips, car camping trips, hotel trips, Airbnb trips. Getting to the lake itself was always at minimum a 5 hour drive, so i really only went there once a year.

I am in the Willamette valley looking for something similar for my annual solo birthday trips. I already go to the coast and the mountains all the time. I'm also already working on checking state parks and NPS sites off my list.

Any suggestions on places/areas I can revisit and explore year after year to keep discovering new things? I'm open to anything that's 3-10 hours away. I will be spending 5-6 days on each trip, and they happen in mid September. I hope to spend time hiking, looking at birds, camping, having peace and quiet. Also, I bring my dog with me.

Maybe eastern Oregon? Or Vancouver island?

(If nothing else, probably my annual trip will just be exploring different new areas of Oregon, Washington, and BC each year. Also, I used to live in Alaska, so remoteness, bear country, cold weather camping, etc are AOK with me.)