u/Ashamed-Egg-7229

So I am in a 5Y relationship since 3rd year of my college. My bf is a really good person I love him sm but there’s something thats bothering me it has been 3 years since clg has ended and he hasn’t started working yet. Thats fine too people have different interests and I am ready to support him with any kind of profession that he is interested. But he doesn’t do anything. He likes cars , Cricket, gaming etc but doesn’t take any of them seriously. Its fine even if he doesn’t make good money. I just feel like he needs to do something.
There are a lot of things that’s bothering me. How can I tell my parents about him? I have always been a strong opinionated person. I have always been a good student a sincere and dedicated person when it comes to my career and am working at a decent company with a decent salary. This is not what my parents expect from me also, I want my parents to like him , to think that he is a great choice. But the first thing parents would look at is how capable a guy is , how can he take care of their daughter.
We fight very often but nothing changes.
Are most of the men like this? How can I make sure that he realises that needs to do something in life.

There is no pressure from his family as he is their only child and they already pamper him so much that they don’t want to make him feel anxious thinking about job and money.

Please don’t advice me to leave him. I am genuinely trying to solve our issues and live a happy life with him

So I am in a 5Y relationship since 3rd year of my college. My bf is a really good person I love him sm but there’s something thats bothering me it has been 3 years since clg has ended and he hasn’t started working yet. Thats fine too people have different interests and I am ready to support him with any kind of profession that he is interested. But he doesn’t do anything. He likes cars , Cricket, gaming etc but doesn’t take any of them seriously. Its fine even if he doesn’t make good money. I just feel like he needs to do something.
There are a lot of things that’s bothering me. How can I tell my parents about him? I have always been a strong opinionated person. I have always been a good student a sincere and dedicated person when it comes to my career and am working at a decent company with a decent salary. This is not what my parents expect from me also, I want my parents to like him , to think that he is a great choice. But the first thing parents would look at is how capable a guy is , how can he take care of their daughter.
We fight very often but nothing changes.
Are most of the men like this? How can I make sure that he realises that needs to do something in life.

There is no pressure from his family as he is their only child and they already pamper him so much that they don’t want to make him feel anxious thinking about job and money.

Even if they pre-planned everything it was Yogesh who knew Ruru was gonna come and still formed a love connection with you and didn’t behave uninterested like Deeptanshu so stop commenting everywhere that pre-planning is ignored, even if we take that into consideration its your stupid boyfriend Yogesh that is at fault and you met him, hugged him, cuddled with him when you are fine with what he did why should we complain about it????