Elderly N Mom keeps putting pee pads in my trash
I'm 53 and my 82 year old mother lives with my family. It took me until a few years ago to fully understand that she is a covert narcissist. Her main and most cherished activity is constant complaining and making things miserable. Over the past year, she's developed urinary incontinence that fluctuates between mild and severe, so she uses pads and adult diapers. I started noticing that my bathroom trash is constantly full of these things. The pads are always unwrapped and just laying in there face up. Sometimes it really smells like pee. Today I came home and there was a smear of poop on the toilet seat too. To be clear, she isn't senile or infirm or anything. Just incontinent. It occurred to me, she's doing this during the day when I'm at work. No one else is here. There's another bathroom on the same floor that is closer to her room and the living room, so she's choosing to go to my bathroom for this. She has no friends, so she isn't worried anyone will come over amd use the main bathroom. Why does she have to do this? It's gross. And because she's also a constant victim, if I ask her to wrap the pads or dispose of them in a different way or clean off the toilet if she gets anything on it, she'll just flip out and start crying and act like I'm abusing a poor old woman. This is mostly just a rant because I want to get it out, and I'm so incredibly sick of it. Living with her was a terrible mistake, and now I feel trapped because she's old and would be destitute if she didn't live with us and the guilt gets to me. Ugh.