Me (20M)and him (21M)are dating but something isn’t clicking and I’m not sure why.
Me (20M) and him (21M) get a lot great and I always have a good time hanging out with him but something just isn’t clicking. He isn’t my usual type but he has been so caring and sweet but also very quick and sappy. It’s his first relationship and I think he is just very eager but a lot of the time it makes me uncomfortable with remarks that are very sappy sappy and idolizing. I don’t want him to get extremely attached very quickly as it is clear he’s more attracted to me than I am to him. Im not sure if I’m just not letting him in? Like I’m afraid to fall in love again. Like I’m just afraid if I reciprocate back a lot he’ll want to get married after only a week.
There is a weird trend in my past where I’ve been the one obsessing and chasing someone but not the tides are kind of turned and I don’t know why it doesn’t click. Not saying that I don’t like him or anything I care about him a lot and I don’t want to lose him. I’ve told him I want to take things a lot slower especially since we both know what has happened to eachother with our past relationships.
Maybe the fact that I’m not having this anxiety is making me indecisive, all my past flings have had strange horribly anxiety attachment and here that isn’t the case, sounds like a good thing but maybe my idea of love is skewed. Add to that we are long distance and he is very far away from me.
TLDR: I’m dealing with a lot of conflicting emotions with someone new I am dating and am afraid of taking things too fast and afraid of letting him in.