My mother murdered my dad
So, my dad had cancer, discovered in 2020, after passing blood, he went to the ER, and they said he had a kidney stone, but discovered a mass on his kidney. They removed his kidney, claiming they got everything. 6 months later, they found a spot on his lung. He ended up having 3 spots, but after immunotherapy, they got it down to one spot. These spots were in the single digit millimeters in size. In 2022, about 2 months after my paternal grandmother died, he started getting dizzy, and couldn't lift his head off the pillow. Another ER visit later and he has a brain tumor. They remove it, claim they got it all. This is when the murder starts. The murderous "doctors" in radiology want their piece of the financial pie, and tell him that despite the fact that they got the whole tumor out, they want to do radiation. I told him it was a bad idea, because RADIATION CAUSES CANCER. But my mother, whom I'll refer to from now on as the LMT (Lying Murderous Thief) convinced him to go ahead and do it. That was in the spring. Come October, lo and behold, the tumor is back in his brain. Same spot. Now, it's still in the lower single digit millimeter size, but it's still there. This time, the greedy "doctor" in radiology wants another brand new Tesla, so he tells my dad he needs to do his WHOLE HEAD for 10 DAYS STRAIGHT. Again, the LMT convinces him to do it, despite my arguments that had he not had the first radiation, he probably wouldn't have this tumor regrowing. He does it anyway...Within a month, he is covered from head to toe with cancer, and unable to walk.
She has him transported to hospital, where she asks them to do MORE radiation, knowing that it will speed up his demise. Now, keep in mind that before his 10 day dose of radiation, he had plans to go to Mexico, to a clinic that specializes in curing cancer. They use methods not approved by big pharm, mainly because their methods don't make big pharm any money. The LMT did NOT want to go with him, and made this very plain to me. Especially when she found out he would be there for a month.
A bit of background seems in order: All my life the LMT has yelled and screamed at me and my dad. She didn't scream a lot at my older brother, because he learned early on that if he agreed with our parents on everything, they would favor him, which worked. Every time my brother, who is a sadist, would purposely make me mad (for his own entertainment), or hit me or get his friends to beat me up, if I told on him, I would get punished. He was, and still is the golden child. My aunt (LMT's sister, my dad was an only child) told me that the LMT has been lying since she was a child, because she figured out that if she lied to her parents, and told them what she thought they wanted to hear, it would keep them happy. This led to a lifetime of habitual, compulsive lying. She would lie to my dad, when she went shopping, and he caught her coming in the house with a purchase, he would ask her why she got it, and she would tell him, "Oh, don't worry, I got it on sale for really cheap" and he would just believe her and leave her alone. She would go shopping and ask me if I wanted something, strawberries for example. I would say sure, and she would come back with extra stuff for me. Like cereal, and she would tell me she got the cereal BOGO, and knew we liked it so she got it. And she would leave the receipt in the bag, and the cereal was not on sale, it was regular price! I could go on and on about lies she told, but I digress. I also was told by my aunt that the LMT abused her power of attorney (POA) privileges multiple times-when her dad, my grandfather, was in hospital, nearing the end of his life, she would check his mail, and when he got annuity checks, she was supposed to deposit them into his bank account. She would cash them and pocket the money. My aunt knew this by checking the account for deposits. But instead of deposits, she discovered a withdrawal, or actually transfer, of $100,000 from his account into the LMT's account, which she then closed, and bought a new car, claiming her dad bought it for her and that she was going to pay him back. Technically he did buy it for her, but he didn't KNOW he bought it. And finally, the only story I have on how my grandfather died was what the LMT told me. She said he was ready to die and wanted to stop getting blood transfusions, and she told the doctors this and he was gone in 2 weeks. I believe she told the doctors this without his knowledge, and he wondered why he wasn't getting transfusions anymore, and died.
Anyway, so my dad was in hospital, then sent home to die. He was in hospital January of 2023, and was dead by the end of February. During the final month of him being home, I had given him a dose of something on a blog about a guy that cured his own cancer. Within 24 hours of that first dose, he had gone from barely above a whisper to just being hoarse. I mistakenly trusted her when I gave her the whole packet of doses, and told her to give it to him daily. After he died she gave me every single one back. She claimed the nurses wouldn't leave them alone and was watching her like a hawk. BS! What nurse is going to say no if a spouse asks for privacy? She wanted him to die.
Another bit of background: She has hated my dad for the last 30 years, because he built a house on family land, which happens to be 5 minutes from her worst enemies-his parents, my grandparents. My grandparents had NO enemies that I know of. Every single person I've ever talked to about them had nothing but good things to say about them, when they were alive and since they died. The LMT hated them both because she believed they were just ignorant country bumpkins that tried to control every aspect of my dad's life. She would hide whenever they would come to visit, and yell at my dad when they left, saying they were always coming over (not true), and always telling my dad what to do (also not true). They eventually quit coming because they knew she didn't want them there, and they wanted to spare my dad of getting yelled at.
You should've seen the evil smile she had on her face when my parents were sitting with my grandmother about 2 weeks before she died. She gave me the same evil smile about a year and a half ago.
So in November of 2024, she was tested for dementia. I had her doctor refer her to be tested because she was showing all the signs. Falling a lot, making unrealistic demands of my wife and me (because we had built a house 5 minutes from my dad's house), super impatient, repeating herself 3 times all the time, and her conversation was super scattered. She would spend the entirety of her monthly retirement/social security before the second week of the month, which she had increased to $5000 a month, and complain about how she didn't have any money. Also, she was shuffling along when she walked, very similar to Tim Conway's oldest man in the world sketch from Carol Burnett Show, or if you need a more recent example, like Joe Biden. Unfortunately, she was having a good day when she was tested, and the test was a joke (here's a list of words, repeat them back to me). So they said on the report, "no signs of dementia but she needs to be monitored and retested every 3-4 months". I asked what that means and was told that yes, she has dementia, but since she passed the test, they couldn't diagnose her, so bring her back in. Well this set her off and made her wave that test result around, claiming she's fine.
Later that month, she made me literally almost have a heart attack (confirmed with my doctor) by calling me and telling me that if my dad's house wasn't cleaned out by December 1, she was going to get a company out to put everything in a dumpster and haul it off. My dad's basement looked like an episode of hoarders, because he had several generations of things in there that he wanted preserved because it was family stuff. Furniture, letters, pictures, everything. I had to hire people to help me get everything I could out, but she stole things that were in my dad's will for me to have, and gave my grandfather's and great grandfather's guns to some company to sell. I had to buy them back for $1000. When I emptied the basement and parts of the upstairs, I had to put the stuff in my grandparents' house, which was broken into, and my grandmothers bass fiddle was stolen, and who knows what else. Then she announces that she's moving to be closer to my brother over in the next state (remember the golden child?), because, and I quote "He'll take care of me." because my wife and I were obviously not doing a good job. She also told everybody she knew that my wife and I were mentally abusive, stealing money and things from her, and were generally horrible people (another dementia sign). She also said she was going to a place that costs $5000 a month to live in, and called it an independent living facility, which is basically a fancy name for a retirement community of duplexes. She could've stayed RENT FREE in a house with no mortgage, and we would've looked after her. But since my brother still agrees with her on everything, believes her lies, and lets her do what she wants (because he carried that attitude with him into adulthood, and now that makes him an enabler), she wants to be with him. I told her not to sell the land that has been in my dad's family since the 1840s (I have the original land grant my dad's house is on), and to rent the house, because she'd get a check every month and never run out of money. Not good enough. BUT, she lied to me AND OTHER PEOPLE, saying she was going to rent the house when she moved out. But I had figured out she was a liar by then, and knew she would sell. It was only a question of when.
She moved out January 6, 2025. I felt like I'd been freed from slavery. But my dark days weren't over yet. Within a month, by chance, a guy pulled into my driveway asking for directions to my dad's house because the land had just sold. Well, I went to work, and emptied my great-great-grandparents house, which is on my dad's driveway, as much as I could. The land hadn't sold yet, as I was told, but was happening soon. My great-great-grandparents' house was built in 1899 in 19 days for $19. Still standing. Been in my family ever since. Until now.
She sold all of the land for about 1/3 of its value, and immediately bought a new car, and who knows what else. The carpet bagger that bought it met me and swore he wouldn't tear down the old house, and would sell only to someone who wanted to live on land in the woods and be left alone, and would split the land in half and build a house on the vacant half and sell to 2 different people. LIES. Within 2 weeks he turned around and made $250,000 on the sale. Just like that. The LMT called my wife and me and wanted us to return her call. My wife called her back and she told my wife she was selling the land. My wife said we know and she was surprised her scheme was found out.
Now, back in November, when I'd almost had a heart attack, I had told my wife that the LMT was lying to us, and I believed she was going to sell the land, knowing her devious character. So I'd already mentally prepared myself for this to happen. So I told my wife we needed to move, because I can't stay in a place where I have to watch my family land belong to someone else, especially if they're going to destroy the land and put a development or trailers or whatever on the land. So we got our house ready and put it on the market. It's still waiting to be sold a year later, but we have since moved north one state to be near my inlaws, who are my family now. I've since cut the LMT off, and my brother, never one to stay in touch anyway, hasn't spoken or contacted me in a year. I blocked the LMT on my phone and emails, and my wife has cordially responded to her texts when she feels necessary. My kids unfortunately have to do without her, but as I told them, since she lies all the time, it's best for my kids to not be around someone who lies and cause them to think that it's ok to lie too.
I also have to say that the LMT manipulated me and tried to groom me to think of MY inlaws as the enemy, and my relationship has dramatically improved with my inlaws since I cut her off. She stole money from me, stole things my dad wanted me to have, and verbally abused me for most of my life, and mentally abused me for the majority of the time since she successfully murdered my dad. I think it's for the best. The worst part of this is of course the what if I'd done this or convinced my dad of that, he would still be here, and of course seeing our family land, legacy, and heritage be destroyed by a manipulative LMT.
But I read a book about forgiveness and forgetting. Forgiveness is still in progress for me, but I've been working on forgetting. I can't forget what happened, but I've been praying to forget the pain and suffering that was involved. So I'm on track with that, because I can now talk about this without getting my blood pressure up.
All I've written is 100% true. I believe I did the right thing by cutting off the LMT.