u/Automatic_Brain_7804

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I genuinely cannot remember a single "incident" with people recently that would indicate I'm being clocked, but I cant tell if that's because I just haven't been looking or if it genuinely isn't happening. I live in a pretty progressive area so things like being catcalled almost never happens period because it's seen as trashy and pretty much nobody ever uses gendered honorifics like "ma'am" or "sir" or affectionate titles like "honey" "sugar" or "sweetie". So, tbh, much of the whole "signs you're passing" stuff doesn't apply to my situation.

But furthermore, stuff like "people do double takes" and stuff is also hard to apply because I haven't... really been looking? So, I don't know. I feel like I would be able to discern if I knew what to look for but I haven't been outside very often recently and back when I was its difficult to recall. I'm stuck between thinking that I probably would've noticed anyways if people were looking at me weird or if I just cant know for sure.

But FURTHERMORE. I have nothing to compare it to. I started hrt at a time when I was visibly a teenage boy and so I dont know what it's like to be perceived as a grown cisgender man. I can't contrast my experience with anything. This is all I've ever know, I don't know WHAT this is.

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u/Automatic_Brain_7804 — 21 days ago

genuinely dont understand this. in boymode I have gotten literal relatives who have known me for as long as I've been alive asking people who I am and who's girlfriend I am, but then in girlmode I get my teacher constantly fumbling over himself between "he" and "she". This is so confusing to me. I guess maybe part of it is that people usually get my male name first? but that cant account for the constant confusion on their behalf.

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u/Automatic_Brain_7804 — 25 days ago