u/Automatic_Passage306

My baby is 8 months (tomorrow) and he babbles but doesht say mama or dada and literally every single day I see posts in this mom group I'm in for Sept babies and they're all saying stuff like "love when my baby says mama and dada, baby only says mama, but won't say dada" and so on... That's not necessarily normal right?? I've always been under the assumption that babies don't start saying words till closer to a year old just babble like "maamamama", or "babababa", or my babies favorite the g sound. Am I wrong? Is my baby behind? And I talk to him and read to him everyday, do the mama and dada sign. I'm not sure why this is getting to me but I've 2 weeks straight of seeing soooo many moms say the same thing I'm really starting to feel some type of way.

Ok, for context I am white woman, married to a black man, and we have an 8 month old together.

I'm a new mom to a mixed baby and I love him so much. I'm also very informed on politics, history, Ive put in the work prior to getting pregnant and STILL put in the work to dismantle my own racial bias and learn about white supremacy and how to fight against it. So I feel secure that I'm going to raise my child well with my knowledge, his fathers knowledge, his extended family, and all our friends, but one thing that I can't shake is thinking/feeling he's to light. Part of me even wishes he was darker and I can't figure out why. I compare my baby to other mixed kids and almost feel like I failed him because he's not as dark. I feel so wrong and guilty for it too and my partner doesn't understand what I'm saying or feeling so thought I'd come here to get chewed out, told off, or a different perspective. I love my baby more than anything and him and his skin are perfect I'm just scared he'll be made fun or idk what for how light he is.

Edit: thanks so much for yalls comments! I really am just being anxious and overthinking the whole thing. I know my baby is perfect, and is not And never will be defined by his skins shade, and I'm gonna make sure he always knows that and so much more. His father and I already speak so much love into him everyday about his skin, family, hair, and existence overall that I'm not worried about him. I just had my own personal weird hurdle to clear (and frankly avoid all together cause it's so dumb) and just needed a little extra coaching.