We Do Not Mourn Time
People often measure love by time, but I’ve learned that the depth of a connection cannot be measured by months or years alone.
Some people spend decades together and never truly see one another, while others cross paths briefly and leave marks on each other for a lifetime.
What hurt me was never the length of the relationship. It was the meaning behind it. It came at a time in my life when I finally understood how to love more intentionally to listen, to observe, to support, to be emotionally present. And when it ended, it felt like grieving not only a person, but a future, a version of myself, and a hope I had finally begun to believe in.
People may look from the outside and only see “two months.” But human experiences are deeper than calendars. We do not mourn time. We mourn connection, meaning, and the parts of ourselves awakened through another person.
I no longer see love in black and white. Sometimes two people genuinely care for one another, yet still lack the timing, emotional readiness, or understanding needed to stay together. That does not make either person evil. It makes them human.
And maybe that is part of growing older realizing that love is less about possession and permanence, and more about experience. Some people are meant to stay forever. Others are meant to change you forever.
Either way, both become part of who you are.