Hi! Trying to find the best places to find authentic and/or handmade items for my ofrenda this year. As I am not in Mexico 😢, I don't really want to buy the mass produced items from places like Michael's if I can help it.
Do you have any ideas or favorite shops/online shops to purchase? I'd much rather support local artists or small businesses. Thank you!
This is definitely anxiety talking, but can you tell me about your experiences with the nurses and doctors after birth? Did they respect your decisions? Did they push even harder? Did you ever have to request a new nurse or doctor?
What did you explicitly have written on your birth plan? Did you make a point to like...make sure your team understood it?
Nobody has had CPS called, either, I hope. I don't know why I'm so concerned about it, but I live in an area where crunchy is looked down upon, and I am definitely the minority when it comes to declining vaccines/sugar water/taking baby from room etc.
TLDR: My husband has a horrible, screaming pet parrot that I have dealt with for 3.5 years. We are expecting our (unplanned) first baby in January, and I am at my wits end. I want to wring the bird's neck on a daily basis due to his incessant screaming and it's getting worse. Help.
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This is a long one. Sorry. I don't know if anyone is going to read this, but I genuinely don't know what to do anymore.
First, some context. We have a small 3bd 2br ranch. The front room is my office, the room across is the bird room, and off the living room is the master. It's allll open floor plan. It echoes despite being small.
I am 7+1 today, with all of the symptoms. This baby was unplanned, but not unwanted.
The parrot my husband owns is not friendly. My husband's ex-wife basically abandoned the bird after the bird bonded to her. The parrot is not able to be handled or he will bite your fingers off. I'm serious. He is completely unpredictable. We have consulted many different "bird trainers" with various methods which have done nothing. I have done my own research and have attempted to bond with him a million times. Cashews, new fruits, new toys, gentle words, UV lights, high quality pellets, etc. If the bird wants something and doesn't get it immediately, he starts SCREAMING AT THE TOP OF HIS LUNGS. He screams at 5am as the sun comes up. He screams at 10am because there's too much noise from the construction outside, and he wants to take a nap. He screams at 3pm when I try to nap. He screams at 6pm for the curtains to be closed and his UV light to be off.
Today I flew off the handle. Normally, I can deal with his tantrums but not today, apparently. I own a small business and have 60+ items to ship out by end of day. The bird is SCREAMING incessantly, and it's like...scream-whistling. Scream singing. Loud, repeated shrieking without a freaking breath between. You can hear him from outside of the house, even with the windows closed. I don't know if it's partly the oncoming pregnancy rage, or if I'm just truly fed up. After adjusting his room, food, water, toys etc about 4-5 times, I marched in there and turned off his music, closed the curtain and literally could not stop myself from yelling "SHUT. THE. FUCK. UP!!!!"
The parrot, in fact, did not shut up.
That's when blind rage began, and I ripped open the door, screamed back at him and threw an empty metal tin can at his cage. I know. I'm very shitty for that. He's fine and wasn't near or in his cage as he roams the bird-proof room during the day. I knew he wasn't in it. He continued screaming.
I bursted into tears. My mother is over to help me pack items, and she tells me to just go somewhere else for a while. Of course, the bird is quiet now. Of fucking course. It feels like it's mocking me, even though I know he's just an animal. We provide him with everything there is to provide. Constant attention, quality stimulation, he has his own fucking iPad for god's sake.
My husband refuses to consider rehoming the bird. He gets very defensive when I bring it up. I have offered many times to conduct interviews, be extremely thorough and make sure he's going to someone we trust. I offered to get a lawyer to write up a legally binding contract for whomever we choose. I've suggested we find a parrot sanctuary where he can interact with people on his own terms, because he doesn't want my husband nor I. The parrot is an endangered species, and he is a young male. Despite me hating this bird's stupid dinosaur guts, I do NOT want him passed off to some breeder who will use him and throw him away. That's horrible and no animal deserves that life. But I can't deal with him and a future screaming newborn. I'm terrified. I don't know what to do or how I will survive. Am I the asshole here?
And to be fair, I have 6 other animals including a second bird, which I really enjoy. I love animals. But not this one. I'm so tired of trying and getting nowhere.
Help? Suggestions? Ways to tell my husband that the bird makes me want to move out of this house and take our baby with? 😭
Just hoping to get some insight. I'm about to be 27 and genuinely thought I would've had my first child by 24-25. This year, it almost came true, but I miscarried. Now, my partner and I are thinking at least 6-9mo until we actually try and it's kind of killing me.
As a kid/teen, did you ever imagine yourself at a certain age and when you reached it you realized it's not happening like you thought?
In a way, I'm kind of grieving that timeline for myself.