u/AvoidingAdultingRN

Hello, I’m posting here for some advice please. My son has severe autism and struggles with most things. On top of this, he has ADHD, dyslexia, sensory sensitivities and verbal dyspraxia. He’s 21 and life’s not easy for him.

He was on a mid then moved to higher rate for care and mobility DLA award, before moving him to PIP at 16. He was awarded higher rate for both and put on a 7 year award.

His award is due to expire in June next year. I have a few questions and wondered if people could help me please?

1. should I receive a renewal application in the post? Will it be the same as when we initially applied for him?

2. how long does it roughly take for them to reassess him?

3. We did the first award during lock down so had a telephone assessment. Are they doing in person ones as standard now?

5. I’m so scared he will lose his award after seeing the horror stories here. Any tips when filling the form in?

Thank you in advance. I know it’s still 10 months away but I am already waking up in the middle of the night panicking about it.

We’re only a couple of weeks into a new kingdom and we’re suffering from the usual boredom posts from new players.

It’s the same old story, players come here thinking that it’s all battling each other all day and once they settle in after the full on first few days and realise it’s really not like that they seem to go “well now what?”

I find there’s a lot of disappointment and frustration from these players. The common complaint is this is not the game that was sold to them on the advertising. I would agree with that. But actually I would say it is better.

So I took to my alliance chat to write something to address these comments about explain the game and what is impotent there, well I didn’t actually know how to summarise it.

I guess on the back of that I just wondered how other players felt about the game? How would you describe this game? How do you motivate players during the lull periods?

My husband served as a master gunnery Sergeant in recon Bravo team/squad/branch (I don’t know the correct term I’m sorry. He was a marine from 1994 to 2015 and saw I think it was 7 or 8 active duties between Iraq and Afghanistan.

When he left, he didn’t cope very well and became an alcoholic. He’s been clean sober now for over two years and is doing really well with his health. I met him when he got sober and we have been married for a year now.

He’s managing to keep down a steady job and do the things, but he still struggling and I’m not sure how to help him.

Whilst a lot of the things are classified, I do know he feels extremely bad about losing fellow Marines especially to friendly fire incidents. He talks about how children were caught in the crossfire too much and how much hearing them scream in his head affects him. He speaks about losing men and trying to save them and losing them anyway. Even after most of the people he served with have since died, either whilst serving or later by suicide. He said he feels guilty he’s still here.

He’s definitely suffering from PTSD and at night he talks about black diamonds and things, I will be honest, I don’t understand what they mean. But he sounds like he’s ordering troops about as he’s talking about objectives and things.

Sometimes his anxiety is really bad and he lashes out verbally for no reason and pushes me away. He says things he doesn’t mean and then when that bout of anxiety and PTSD disappears he regrets everything and that intern then causes more shame for him.

He’s 51 years old and he has been out of the marines now for 11 years and seemingly this hasn’t gotten better. I’m gonna hazard a guess it’s likely because he’s not dealt with it properly because he drank so much previously to drown all this out.

I just wondered if anyone had any advice on what sort of therapy would be really helpful for him, please? Any advice on what I can do to make life that little bit easier for him? Like I said he’s doing amazingly for the most part and I try and keep a very regimented household so he feels like he has a role and the structure for him. I found that really helped. But I hate sitting back and watching him go through this and not knowing what to do to help him.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated and thank you in advance.