u/Aware-Dot-91

Had a question. Im an army veteran with 2 tours under my belt. Ive been a desiel mechanic, gasoline mechanic, small engine mechanic, electrician, plumber, carpenter, and currently right now assembling items for major retail companies. Im wanting to join the industry. Im tired of piece work rate. It's never steady. I dont necessarily want to go into the engineer department but eventually want to be a captain as my grandfather was. Would it make more sense to start as a deckhand to gain respect or pay the tuition fee out right for tankerman school or should I go into the engineer field as i have no experience as a deckhand. Would appreciate the feedback

The majority of days I feel my wife and I do not get along. That she's always tossing out little under the carpet stabs that are highly passive aggressive and I try to brush them off but after days of that I feel debilitated and get this hollow feeling in my chest and have no motivation. Im building us a home while working full time and she will say remarks how she hates the rv we stay in while Im building a home by myself. I get it, rv living isnt for everyone but Like jeez sorry i cant afford a prebuilt home while building one. She has no experience in carpentry and when im building she's constantly questioning my build. I have 5+ years working for a home building company. It frustrates me and makes me just want to stop building. When I express to her how im feeling she distances herself from me and we won't talk the whole day due to we cant communicate without an argument. Its frustrating. No matter what I try to express. It feels as tension builds and it is just stressful. Hoping this will pass once the house is completed as im having a hard time just being around her. Maybe im just being a baby back bitch.