Getting pregnant is an act of bravery
Is it just me that thinks this?
I got pregnant and miscarried last year and it was eye opening.
It’s an act of bravery.
Your body goes through so many changes you can’t control. The sickness, the changes. And that’s not even beginning to talk about giving birth!
I felt so alone and completely out of control and helpless.
And then there’s your marriage that takes a hit. You’re lucky if it recovers. If not you’re in an unhappy marriage with responsibilities, even worse, your husband realizes this is not what he wants and you’re abandoned and left to be a single mom.
And also the kid - what if you don’t like them? What if they have a disability? What if they just grow up to be an awful human?
The idea of getting pregnant again is such a turn off. I used to day dream about being pregnant. But now it’s hard to unsee all of these downsides and my rose coloured glasses or shattered.
How do people find the courage? I feel like there’s something in my biology that’s broken. The idea of bringing a new life into this world with all of these risks seems like such a gamble.
I would still love to play a mother figure role but intentionally bringing something I can’t take back scares me.