u/Aya160

When people are completely exhausted, they tend to push away the ones they love the most. This is actually very dangerous.

You stop responding, you don't want to see them, and you cannot respond to their kindness.

This not only hurts your partner, but it also causes you to sink into the depths of loneliness. However, this is not proof that "love has faded."

In psychology, this is considered a "self-defense" mechanism where the brain prioritizes survival. Just as a smartphone drops unnecessary functions when it is low on battery, the brain temporarily pauses "affection and patience".

Therefore, never make a decision to break up when you are exhausted.

First, distinguish that you are just "out of room (mentally)" at the moment. Instead of disappearing in silence, communicate it briefly, saying something like, "I need some alone time," or "I am quite tired right now.

"That honesty is the key to keeping the relationship from falling apart.

When you are exhausted, you actually need someone's warmth the most.

I am currently studying psychology.

I regret that I went through this kind of breakup. I should have faced it and talked it through.

I knew it in the deepest part of my heart. This wasn't "love," it was "dependency." But I couldn't stop it. It was my first love in a long time, and he was younger and purer than me—it was as sweet and thrilling as a first love.

He gave me so many sweet words, but I felt like he wasn't interested in the real "me." Even after five months, though my body knew him, he didn't even know what I liked—my favorite things, foods, or drinks.

I adjusted everything to his convenience, as he was busy with work. I pretended to be understanding and acted like the kind of woman he would like. I wanted to make him happy, and I did it to keep him from leaving. I was blind.

Unlike true "love," "dependency" is unstable and unhealthy, with my mind always obsessed with him.

At one point, my chats to him went unread for a month. I had heard that "work was especially busy lately." I had replied, "Please focus on your work and life for now." But in my dependent state, I couldn't trust him completely, and my mind and body were in total turmoil.

However, in exchange, I was finally able to make up my mind.

"I can't go on like this. I have to leave him."

I turned off notifications for his chats.

He blocked me.

Since then, every day, every hour, I miss him so much. Tears overflow as I remember the fun days when we laughed together.

But I'm sure this was for the best. It was fate that we met and parted at that time. Perhaps it was a necessary scene in the play of my life.

But right now, so many emotions and tears overflow that I cannot put them into words. It's so painful... I miss him so much...