u/B675

Level 1 - Misdemeanor. Live in New York State.

Traveling to Europe. Schengen country.

Gave my 21 day travel notice to my local precinct. They said "thanks" and that they "aren't aware of the need to notify anyone but them".

I went straight to the post office and sent a letter to the NYS DCJS as well. Haven't heard anything back from the local precinct or DCJS.

Has anyone had issues with the local precinct or state government not processing your information in time for your trip?

Together for 7 years, married for 2

Mid 30s

No kids

Beautiful and private home on acres

Nice vehicle

Both have high-paying jobs that really don't require a ton of work

Traveled the world together

We do a lot together, but also try to give each other plenty of alone time

We have a cleaner that comes, so we just do maintenance cleaning which we split evenly.

If one person cooks, the other does the dishes.

I take care of all of the outside chores (lawncare, car washing, hedge trimming, light gardening, general yard cleanup, snow removal when needed, window washing, trash, recycling)

I drive us everywhere

I plan date nights from time to time (she plans more)

I keep track of finances and investments

I stay in shape and try to dress appropriately for whatever the occasion is. I'm slightly over 6ft. Never really had trouble attracting women or pleasing them. (Talking about myself feels weird so I'll stop there)

As the title says, bedroom is dead and that sets off my RJ. My wife swears she's attracted to me, but the actions are speaking loudly. I don't know what I'm not doing. When my RJ is set off, I go into a depressive spiral internally. (You'd never know from the outside.)

Also have to add, she's a bit of a Truth Trickler when it comes to her past. I'm still finding out things.

UPDATE BELOW

So during the day, I sent my wife a message stating how I felt. We were both busy so didn't talk much. I pick her up from work, we go for drinks and didn't talk about the issue at all. We get home, she goes inside and I start tooling around in the garage as most husbands do. She then comes back some time later and says that she has something to show me inside. I already knew what she was trying to do because, in the words of Gi-Hun from Squid Games, "I've played this game before". Sure enough, she's inside in a robe and lingerie. I almost didn't want to entertain it, but it's been a dry spell so I went with it. I know it won't last and this'll be a DB again soon.