u/BabyPlutoMan

Long Post Alert Serious Advice Seeking

I love her so very much and she’s the best thing I have going for me. We click and everything is so, except my sexual life with her. For background, she’s a virgin, very religious girl who wants to save herself for marriage. I oblige, she’s my whole world. I’m also her first boyfriend. About 4 months into our relationship we started with other pleasures like oral and hand. The only issue is that I can’t ever finish for her. She’s very easy for me to read, and I can make her finish a couple of times a session. But whether it’s oral or hand, she can’t ever get me off. Sometimes I can’t hold an erection, sometimes it stays and just dies out. It’s taking a toll on her mental and sexual health. I’m beginning to think she feels unsexy, doing a bad job, or just not good for me. All untrue, she treats me very very well. She’s very new to all this so it’s not like she’s a pro, so maybe there are things she could be doing better but she is very caring and she’s trying very hard for me. But My issues are my issues. I’m on antidepressants that have reduced sexual health, mentally and physically I believe, don’t quote me. I’ve also struggled with a minor “porn addiction” I would call it. I’m a 27 year old guy who was single a long time before her, so I was sort of getting off about 4-5 times a week. Don’t know if that qualifies as an addiction but not the point. I’m worried maybe I’ve come desensitized to like real sexual activities? I don’t know. I’ve tried Eroxon, it’s a sexual stimulant over the counter CVS brand gel. Supposed to help an erection, works sometimes but then you have to plan your sexual activities, instead of being spontaneous and fun like we do sometimes. Anyway, i’m worried if this is something I can fix with like a viagra prescription or blue chew or one of those, but still, I can’t finish. I can sometimes stay hard, but can’t finish. I’m looking for any sort of help. I love my GF so much. I want to be able to be good for her, any advice PLEASE. How can I be better for her. If you read all of this please drop tips. Thanks gents

Long Post Alert Serious Advice Seeking

I love her so very much and she’s the best thing I have going for me. We click and everything is so, except my sexual life with her. For background, she’s a virgin, very religious girl who wants to save herself for marriage. I oblige, she’s my whole world. I’m also her first boyfriend. About 4 months into our relationship we started with other pleasures like oral and hand. The only issue is that I can’t ever finish for her. She’s very easy for me to read, and I can make her finish a couple of times a session. But whether it’s oral or hand, she can’t ever get me off. Sometimes I can’t hold an erection, sometimes it stays and just dies out. It’s taking a toll on her mental and sexual health. I’m beginning to think she feels unsexy, doing a bad job, or just not good for me. All untrue, she treats me very very well. She’s very new to all this so it’s not like she’s a pro, so maybe there are things she could be doing better but she is very caring and she’s trying very hard for me. But My issues are my issues. I’m on antidepressants that have reduced sexual health, mentally and physically I believe, don’t quote me. I’ve also struggled with a minor “porn addiction” I would call it. I’m a 27 year old guy who was single a long time before her, so I was sort of getting off about 4-5 times a week. Don’t know if that qualifies as an addiction but not the point. I’m worried maybe I’ve come desensitized to like real sexual activities? I don’t know. I’ve tried Eroxon, it’s a sexual stimulant over the counter CVS brand gel. Supposed to help an erection, works sometimes but then you have to plan your sexual activities, instead of being spontaneous and fun like we do sometimes. Anyway, i’m worried if this is something I can fix with like a viagra prescription or blue chew or one of those, but still, I can’t finish. I can sometimes stay hard, but can’t finish. I’m looking for any sort of help. I love my GF so much. I want to be able to be good for her, any advice PLEASE. How can I be better for her. If you read all of this please drop tips. Thanks gents