u/Background-Dress-389

Not implying by any means being gay is a bad thing, I'm just wondering why this happens.

I don't put too much effort into my clothes, I don't think I have any of the usual "cliché" gay behaviours. I am conventionally attractive but don't have a gf atm.

The one thing is I never engage in "boy's talk" (talking about how hot X woman is, her tits/ass, and so on and so forth) so I'm wondering if this could be the reason?

If she was the kind of woman to always take things slow I'd be flattered. But the fact that she's admitted to hooking up quickly in the past and now wants to suddenly take things slow with me makes me feel unattractive, like the safe option after a few "situationships" with the men she actually lusts for.

Does this make any sense? Unsure how to procceed

How am I supposed to process this message?

There's this woman I've gone on one date with... The date was OK, but upon checking her socials she seems to be the kind of woman who follows these trends about bashing men, the "most men are potential rapists, I choose the bear" kind of woman.

I am now second guessing whether I should ask her out again, or if this should be a red enough flag for me not to.

So this is something I've been dealing with for a while in dating apps. It's not always said in such a explicit way but it's common enough. I'm never sure what to answer, feels more like a job interview than a date or a first chat with someone 😅