u/BadInternational567

I interviewed for my dream job last week and was very clearly a top candidate. I was told there would be an update Friday or Monday and since that didn't happen I followed up this morning and recruiter just said: I should have an update by the end of this week. Your scorecards were good, but there is strong competition from others who also interviewed very well too."

This doesn't feel great to read and I am not sure what to do now - should I message recruiter back and say why I'm a great candidate, etc? Should I try to sell myself more through that email? Should I request to do a phone call with recruiter?

I am 32 F and very healthy and recently found a gallbladder polyp and now getting very anxious about colon cancer. I believe there is no history of colon cancer in my moms side of the family but I don’t talk to my dad so not sure about ANY family history there.

Ever since I can remember I have always had a sensitive stomach. I don’t have nausea after every meal but if I eat something with heavy cream I do feel nauseous. Healthy foods I feel fine (I primarily eat very healthy). No blood in stool. No thin stools. I also have been having some constipation but also taking iron supplements. It’s getting better. My ferritin is low.

Based on this should I get a colonoscopy? My doc thinks I should just do it at 40.

Have recently gotten 15 interviews but just not getting offers, even for roles I am a perfect fit for. Here are some details about me:

• I left my company in January because I had a very toxic manager. When I get asked why I left I just say the scope of the role was becoming more focused on something that was not my career focus and then I start saying how excited I am for the role I am interviewing for.
• I have been rejected so far for 5-6 jobs. 3 at the final offer stage.
  • 1 I was a top candidate but then interviewed with a VP and was ghosted after that. I guess the VP didn't like me
  • 1 they just said I was great but the other candidate had more "identical" experience to the role.
  • Other one they said they wanted someone with more startup experience which I do have but I guess didn't show that enough? My latest company was a big one but before that was all startups...
  • Another one was just today. They didn't give any feedback. The whole process felt unorganized and I never was even in communication with the recruiter.

When doing interview prep with a mentor two things she told me; I say umm a lot and my answers can be "Long".

Or is it the fact that I haven't been employed in 5 months?? I have been trying this whole time to find a job so it's frustrating. I have a few more interviews left but I'm honestly just wondering if I should give up.