u/BadbishMalenia

There's a girl at work who's taken interest in me and I don't think she looks bad and within my league but when I tried to look at her face longer to feel some physical attraction I noticed wrinkles around her lips which I didn't see before and it just completely through me off and made me feel like the only reason I would pursue her is out of feeling desperately lonely or to be charitable towards her and hopefully find some peace in that but those reasons alone don't feel practical in the long run.

There's a girl at work who's taken interest in me and I don't think she looks bad and within my league but when I tried to look at her face longer to feel some physical attraction I noticed wrinkles around her lips which I didn't see before and it just completely through me off and made me feel like the only reason I would pursue her is out of feeling desperately lonely or to be charitable towards her and hopefully find some peace in that but those reasons alone don't feel practical in the long run.

I've noticed a few women do this with me and I'm pretty sure I haven't led them on because I don't find them physically attractive and looks are pretty important to me so I'm not sure how I would be coming across that way if I'm not interested in them. I just wondered if it's something a lot of women do or whether it's something I'm doing lol