is AGAB language transphobic?
hello, I first want to say i don’t want to sound offensive for any of this so i apologize if i worded anything poorly.
i’m a trans male and have been on testosterone for a few years now. i’ve seen other trans men use “AFAB” to describe themselves. i called myself it before but now it causes discomfort.
and i’ve seen multiple times trans women discussing how some trans people have “AFAB only” spaces and how that’s transphobic. and part of me agrees it’s weird because i feel discomfort for being called AFAB even though they’re including me in that label (i think)? but also part of me sort of understands because i think it makes sense to have spaces to discuss the trouble of being born with certain body parts.
and i understand the struggle of only ever been sexually hurt by people with a penis… i even feel guilty typing that but i’ve seen before that being the reason people have those spaces. but even then it feels like im calling trans women monsters
i guess my question is what’s the point it becomes transphobia, and when is it not and its just ppl genuinely wanting community and its not offensive?
again i dont mean to offend, this has been on my mind for a long time and troubles me a lot for some reason.
i also feel bad about this because i feel like it gives trans men a bad wrap and i’ve seen trans women hate trans men because of this. these things are why i avoid detailed discussions of being trans online cuz everyone seems to hate eachother
thank you for any input