Hello, I’m looking for advice from married couples about my situation.
Since the marriage (5months) I’ve observed a consistent pattern in my husband’s behavior. He gets upset over very small things and then gives me the silent treatment. If I don’t ask him what’s wrong for a day or two, he becomes extremely cold and acts as if I don’t exist. He won’t talk to me, greet me, eat with me, or even sleep close to me.
When I finally ask him what’s wrong, after he’s shown a lot of attitude, he behaves as if I’ve done something seriously wrong. And if I get upset in response, he becomes upset too and goes silent again—almost as if I’m not allowed to feel hurt.
For example, one day we went shopping together. While he was at the counter paying, I was briefly looking elsewhere. He noticed that I didn’t pay attention to him, and because of that, he didn’t speak to me for two days until I asked him what was wrong.
I want to clarify that I genuinely try to be a caring and dedicated wife. I love him, and I believe he loves me too. But over very minor inconveniences, he reacts as if everything is ruined.
I’ve tried discussing this behavior with him a few times, but nothing seems to change. To me, it sometimes feels like ego-driven or even narcissistic behavior.