My question is How do you navigate a relationship where she expects you to carry her heavy emotional baggage, without realizing you don't have to be there and are doing it by choice?
Initially it was a bombshell but I loved her enough to not make it an issue and also to not make her insecure because I genuinely wanted to be there for her and show that no matter her condition in my eyes she's perfect but two months in the amount of emotional support she demands is too overwhelming and I'm expected to provide husband level emotional labour and constant reassurance that it is genuinely draining
She randomly calls me having a panic attack due to something personal with her family and expects me to pull something to calm her down while I'm put under such immense stress, she recently had surgery but for some reason thought it was pretty reasonable to keep me informed on every step of the process and how much it hurt and every inconvenience she felt while they were prepping her, she also brokedown cuz her own mother wasn't by her side and I was online trying to console her on a situation a barely have any idea how to face myself, she thinks she's keeping me included but it clearly shows signs of low self regulation because it feels like an unreasonable expectation to have on your boyfriend.
Also her friends are a group therapy session because if I don't sound reassuring enough and sometimes have no idea how to comfort her she goes to them for help, sends me a screenshot of their response and goes "See, this is how I expect u to reply" so I'm doing all this with someone who doesn't appreciate the immense pressure she puts me under and considers all this "bare minimum" and expects her boyfriend of two months to give her emotional therapy because being romantic and just a cute couple sounds "casual" and a "real relationship" has to have both parties constantly complaining about each and every problem they face in their lives and keep each other misreable and constantly worried
This is honestly too exhausting for me and I'm getting burnt out but I really can't say that she's at fault because I can't help but feel guilty, if I'm genuinely overreacting and she might deserve better and and I'm the one who can't give her the level of emotional love and constant reassurance she deserves, if so I'm sorry