I spent so long setting up to play vrchat, that I forgot about my anxiety, and it hurt.
I spend like, 6 hours making an avatar since I couldn't find a "normal" one for me. Then I set up a tts thing so I don't have to use my real mic.
And then I jumped on a "real" server, a VR boxing game, and got promptly washed by my nerves. Nothing happened, just sat around, watching people box each other, makin jokes, watchin the fight. But I didn't say a damn word. I just sat there, wanting to join but to afraid to. Just so... nervous? Afraid to bother them? Afraid to open myself up? Afraid if I make a fool of myself? Logically theres no reason to care. If they're assholes, I'll just leave, or block em, or take the headset off, whatever. But the action of putting myself in that situation physically makes me freeze. I can't force it at all.
It's like that at my irl job too. I don't say JACK when I am around people I don't trust, and I would never make the first move unless I need them for something. (like HR or a manager)
I just don't know what to do. I actually enjoy being a wallflower, enjoying the vibe. But that doesn't feel... right? for this kind of game. I wouldn't even mind playing solo worlds, but that also feels like I'm playing the game wrong. Maybe I shouldn't play? But I also REALLY want to.
Maybe somethin to talk to a professional about, but I thought VR chat might've been my way to ease myself into it. But even as an avatar, even with a million ways to escape at my disposal, I can't get myself to do it.
That's even without assholes and children online I don't wanna listen to. But I can just find a new instance if I want that.
I dunno. Mostly a short rant. Maybe offer any tips if you guys understand?
EDIT: After thinking about it quite a bit, I think i'll just focus on joining worlds, not worry about chatting and staying silent, until someone approaches me. Maybe even just talk to myself while bowling solo or somethin idk. Then that way I get acclimatized to the worlds, learn the rules, and overall attempt to relax. If you guys know any good worlds to join that I can play solo but be AROUND people (like bowling, my own lane but with plenty of other people around me) then that way I can be in the space, but not worry about bothering/joining people. I am also checking the vrchat calendar for events to join, cause maybe it'll have something I can relate to others to, or even attempt to learn something idk.