[WA] How do I handle a co-parent discussing my mental health with our child and undermining social media boundaries?
How do I handle a co-parent discussing my mental health with our child and undermining boundaries around Snapchat/social media?
I share a 12-year-old daughter with my ex in Washington State. We actually haven’t had major issues for over a year, but recently things escalated after I brought up a concern involving an incident in the car that upset the kids. Instead of the conversation staying focused on that, it turned into accusations about my mental health, him calling me “bipolar,” and discussions involving my past trauma with our daughter.
One of the biggest ongoing issues is phones/social media. I do not want my daughter on Snapchat because of disappearing messages and because there were prior serious safety issues involving phones and sneaking around. I feel like my boundaries around online safety are constantly undermined.
What’s emotionally exhausting is feeling like my daughter vents to her dad about me constantly, then comes back distant or dishonest, while he reinforces negative things about me. I know kids vent sometimes, but this feels bigger and emotionally unhealthy at this point.
My questions are:
How do you handle a co-parent discussing your mental health negatively with your child?
How do you deal with triangulation between households?
How do you set boundaries around Snapchat/social media when the other parent undermines them? I feel mentally and emotionally fried, like I’m walking on eggshells in my own home because my daughter and her dad talk badly about me and I’m getting to the point of what’s the point? i asked her if she wants to live with her dad, i said I don’t feel emotionally safe when you two are just talking badly about me and this is no way to live. If im not perfect she complains to her dad about me.