r/postpartumprogress

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Hey everyone! I’ve been wondering about this and thought this would be the best place to ask.
For those who’ve been through the postpartum stage, what was the hardest part that you weren’t expecting? Or what ended up being way more difficult than people made it seem?
Also, if you could go back, what’s one thing you wish you’d had, known, or gotten help with that would’ve made those first weeks (or months) a little easier?
I’m not just talking about the big things—I’m also curious about the little day-to-day struggles that people don’t really mention but actually make a huge difference.
I’d love to hear your experiences. Thanks for sharing ❤️

My son is 6m old and my first son is now 13. I had him when I was young, became a single mom and then met my husband and we tried to have one together. Now our baby is 6m old and I have terrible PPD and sadness of our situation. Everyone keeps saying it’s ppd or PPA but truthfully, I’m just disappointed. I loved my life before my baby. I was a workout fanatic, ran marathons and half marathons, lifted weights, loved to work and make money, walk my dog, attend all my kids sporting events and be super present with him, sleep, etc. Now, my baby had colic for the first 4m. We did dairy free diet for me, pumping, speech therapist to rule out feeding issues, a different pediatrician, chiropractor, etc etc etc. I am a SAHM and I get out everyday still to workout or I do it in the garage during naps. My relationship with my husband and son both suck because I’m stuck in the house almost always. My baby gets tired within like 1 hour of his wake window, so then there is rubbing his eyes and crying and we have to basically go home because he won’t fall asleep anywhere except in his dark room while being rocked to sleep. people want to make plans? we don’t go. or, they go and I stay home. Everything is just so much harder and tbh I think i romanticized this baby. My pregnancy was so easy and then ever since he’s been here- boom. I get told it’s bad ppd and I need to get a break more often and go to a therapist. I’ve been to 2 of them. And when I get a break it just makes it worse because the whole time I’m gone I’m crying that I have to come back here. This is progressively gotten worse-to the point one night I drove me and my baby to the er because he wouldn’t stop crying so I couldn’t stop crying. I’m not scared I’ll harm myself but I think about things like giving up custody of my kids so I can take care of myself. I’m in a very dark place and I’m upset that I can’t die. Since I can’t die I just have to live in this hell hole and I don’t think that’s fair to my kids that they have a mom that’s this depressed. My husband has no idea what to do. He helps me, does all the night wakings, etc. I have support. But I just hate being a mom and hate my life now. Everytime my baby cries I go into a spiral of pure hatred for my life. I get frustrated with him and constantly annoyed that he whines. I just don’t know how to make myself….like my life more? if that makes sense. Is this even ppd?

I am tracking my weight and calories postpartum.

Well, today I weighed myself immediately before and after pumping FOR SCIENCE . I pumped 15 fluid oz and the scale dropped from 140.8 lbs to 138.0 lbs.

Crazily enough this is a 44.8 oz difference

American metrics are funny . 🇺🇸 happy Fourth of July

Everyone told me about sleepless nights, but no one mentioned how dry and uncomfortable my skin would become.

Hi everyone,
I’m a 24-year-old first-time mom, and now that I’m thinking about contraception, I’m feeling a little overwhelmed.
My doctor recommended the Mirena IUD, but I have to admit I’m pretty scared of getting it inserted. Because of that, I’ve been reading about the contraceptive implant too, and now I’m torn between the two.
I’d really love to hear from people who have actually used either one. What made you choose it, and how has your experience been? Did you have any side effects or anything you didn’t expect? If you got one while breastfeeding, how did that go?
I know everyone’s body is different, but hearing real experiences, the good and the bad, would honestly help me feel a lot more confident about making a decision.
Thanks so much in advance. ❤️

My baby is super active and has never loved or even liked breastfeeding but rather has tolerated it. He is 10 months old now and for him to nurse the conditions have to be perfect, no distractions and he has to be well rested otherwise he pops off and rolls away. He’s gotten really good at eating solid foods and is obsessed with water and I feel he is rejecting the breast more and more. I always pictured myself nursing until 2-3 or whenever my baby weaned himself but I sense he will wean far sooner than I ever imagined and I am sad about it. I struggled to get pregnant and I worry this will be my only chance to nurse so that is part of the sadness

Has this happened to anyone? All of my friends have boob barnacles and I feel like the odd one out with a baby who doesn’t really enjoy or find comfort in nursing and is seeming to be self weaning before a year

TIA

EDIT: my baby has never been interested in a bottle either, we would have to force feed him a bottle so I just stopped pumping and breastfed because it was easier and he didn’t prefer the bottle. He doesn’t even really like purées, we’ve done BLW because he loves to grab food and feed himself

Im 4 week PP and desperate to get back to my pre pregnancy body. I am in a calorie deficit and waiting for my 6 week sign off from doctor to let me know if I can go back to exercise. (I had emergency forcepts to deliver baby and had stitches)

I feel a bit defeated as a lot of information online says you can't lose weight whilst breastfeeding due to hormones, body hanging onto fat etc etc

Is this true? Has anyone lost weight whilst breastfeeding?

As time goes on, I feel less like I just have some postpartum weight to lose and abs to tighten back up, and more like I’m just permanently disfigured.

I had a 2nd c section 7 weeks ago (I know it’s early to be complaining, but hear me out), and I look totally different from my first postpartum recovery. The fat layer on my belly doesn’t sit normal. It’s not like a typical mom pooch, it’s a c section shelf that lays unnatural. I wouldn’t have an overhang like this at my current weight if it wasn’t for the way my body healed after the surgery. I’m already considering a tummy tuck or adhesion removal surgery in my future, but the thought of walking around for 18 months with this body while I wait for the surgery makes me queasy. Also it’s really crushing to think I could lose a bunch more weight and exercise and still be left with this.

It feels like there’s only been “good” photos on this subreddit lately, so I figured I’d get my rant out while also reminding others on here that there’s a ton of us still struggling.

I’m 5’2. Before pregnancy I was 177 lbs and already trying to lose weight. I went up to 218 at delivery via emergency C-section because of severe preeclampsia. I also had a postpartum eclamptic seizure and I feel like it really messed up my recovery more than I expected.

I’m 202 lbs now and I’ve only lost about 2 lbs in the last 7 months. I was 204 at my 6 week check up. I’m not exclusively breastfeeding I combo feed. I also walk daily about 1 hr -1.5 hrs total, but the scale just isn’t moving at all.

I guess I just want to know if anyone else has actually been stuck this long postpartum and what finally helped you break through? Or did your weight only start changing after weaning?
Has anyone tried GLP-1s while still breastfeeding, or were you told to wait?