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i'll probably be visiting the area soon & i'd rather try a local favorite than a chain. whats one place you would recommend - thanks guys

I still wish we'd gotten another Sherlock holmes movie with RDJ. It's one of my fave roles of his. I heard rumors of Sherlock 3 but the rumors kinda died down :/ oh well

By far my favorite character in Game of Thrones 😭 I need a fan series of just his adventures

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Hey everyone, I’m using a throwaway account because my partner knows my main. I really need a safe space to vent and get some perspective, because Retroactive Jealousy is eating me alive right now and I don't know how to handle it anymore.

My partner and I are currently struggling hard financially. We are stressed, cutting back on everything, and trying to build a future together, but it feels impossible because a significant chunk of his income goes toward paying child support to his ex-wife.

Here is where the RJ and resentment twist the knife: his ex-wife remarried a man who is a high income earner. They live a comfortable lifestyle. She doesn’t need his money to give the kids a good life anymore—her new husband provides everything and then some. Yet, the legal agreement stands, and she takes every single penny without a second thought.

Logically, I know it’s for the kids and it’s a legal obligation. I’m not monsters—I want the kids to be taken care of. But emotionally I am drowning in resentment.

Every time that money leaves his account, I feel this deep, agonizing pain. I look at our bank account, then I think about his past with her, and it spirals. It feels like his past is actively sabotaging our present and future. It breaks my heart because it feels like he isn’t prioritizing our life or my happiness. We can't afford the things we want to do, yet he is bound to this financial anchor from a life he lived before me.

I find myself obsessing over their past marriage, wondering why she still gets to have this hold over our finances, and feeling deeply insecure that I'm getting the "struggling, broke" version of him while she got his youth, and now enjoys luxury with someone else while still draining him.

Has anyone else dealt with RJ specifically tied to step-parenting, child support, and financial strain? How do you separate the legal obligation from the feeling that your partner is choosing his past over your current happiness? I love him so much, but this pain is becoming unbearable.