u/BeachBoundButterfly

Do you go to the funeral to respect, honor and celebrate the person that passed, or to console, support and "show face" for others to say they saw you appropriately present and grieving?

I have a relative whose parent passed away, but everyone knows that parent and I, didn't see eye to eye ever, and never even really spoke. Plus, that parent disrespected me and my parent, so why would I go?

I have only gone to services for people I knew and had a relationship with, not someone I didn't get along with or speak to irl. Funerals are difficult for some (including me) already. They are usually a combination of dramatic outbursts, anger between some relatives unraveling, and people acting like it's a joyous family reunion with photo opps, ignoring the family's elephants in the room that never get addressed.

There is not 1 way to support someone, and there is not 1 way to grieve. I think too much emphasis is put on visuals, instead of reality. I mean even Eddie Murphy didn't go to his brother Charlie's funeral and the were as close as one can be! Am I wrong?

Have you been hired, or hired anyone, from an "ongoing" Task Associate position listing? Or your store only posts as truly needed? Trying to gauge timing expectations (I know varies by store).....

Is the hiring process for this role a multi step one or just 1 interview since there's no hsir/makeup product application requirements or concerns?

What criteria needs to be met to get the top of the pay range?

How many of these positions are there usually for 1 store? (Like would I be the only one or are there a set number needed on the schedule?)

Is this a high turnover role?

Would it make sense to talk to a manager in store as a follow-up? (I'm less than 10 min away and always in/near there)

Is there a higher probability of being called for an interview closer to holidays for a seasonal role?

Per sub rules, this is being posted Sat 8/22 5:35pm EST.

A well known beauty brand has a PT position available that I might apply for, just for the great benefits! Those that took a PT retail job, what did you omit/include, specifically that would allow you to get the top salary of that position, but not give them "a fear I'll leave" vibe?

(Besides removing degree and director/managerial roles obviously.)

Did you include past PT/retail/customer service roles if they were long ago without dates?

Starting over working out again, looked at items I have, wondered what else could help. For context, I used to be a gym rat (boxing, yoga, pilates, boot camps, HIIT, TRX, swimming, etc) then had some health issues, surgeries, etc and trying to get back on track.

Here's what I have/do now:

-Walking pad/treadmill (use 30 min/day, haven't used the incline yet, that's next goal)

-5 lb weights (arm curls, 5 reps of 25 on treadmill)

ankle weights (wear in the house doing chores, etc)

-waist trainer

-smoothies with protein powder

-meal prep for 3/4 days, or week depends on food

-use a food/water tracking app

-water bottle throughout the day, avg 100 oz daily

-Just bought a food scale and omg my usual portions were way too much I see

Trying to get consistent with those, I also have...

-weighted jump rope

-yoga mats, blocks

-Weighted hoola hoop (gift from yrs ago, still in box)

-10 lb ball

-10 lb kettle bells

-resistance bands

-65" body ball

-boxing gloves

-some pre-installed exercise phone apps and TV channels

Goals:

-Lose 30 lbs

-manage my Menopause "hard belly"

-pre-procedures flexibility

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So what should I use/do next? (Can't do too much over head lifting due to dual shoulder surgeries. Also can't do too much burpees due to dual foot surgeries, broken bones.)

Everyone keeps saying weighted vest for walking. Suggestions?

(Also if you have recs for short torso waist trainer brands, please lmk. I have an old Squeem that's too small, but can't find them now and need short torso version. I'm currently using Atbuty 9" 25 bones).

1. What's the shortest time you were on a job before quitting, laid off, etc?

2. Did you include that on your resume if it's relevant to the field/roles you're pursuing?

3. How are you answering the "why weren't you there long" question?

(FYI, I'm not talking typical short term jobs like retail, restaurants, etc)

A friend gave me the "inside" advantage of a role at their company. After multiple back and forth emails, etc since April, canceling a trip to see my dad because of scheduling conflict for the interview a month in advance, for the only 1 day option (tomorrow) for all the interviews to be held...I just received a notification that the interviews are being canceled and later rescheduled.

Reason: they don't have any place to physically put the person, since they've been renovating the offices .....since last year!

Those of you that think it's just who you know, it's not! My friend is a higher up, and still they didn't share the decision with them until yesterday. They texted me last night, but company sent official email this morning.

one

day

notice!

silver lining, it keeps me on the market for something even better!

live your life, don't cancel plans and dont wxoect your contacts to be the savior. When it's that much trouble, it's not worth it, or meant to be 🥴

If possible, please provide as much detail you can for any item. I'd like to see the range and differences in selecting applicants to interview. I'm an applicant trying to get an "other side" perspective, of course with the knowledge all have different preferences/methods.

1. Sorting 100+ is based on what exactly (after/besides ATS)? What's the top 5 filters you're using to select resumes?

2. How many resumes do you personally read any part of? Is there a specific number or until you find "the one" (knowing you don't read every bullet of course)?

3. Do you have a specific resume style you want to see vs others? (Ex some people put summary, skills, education before experience, some put them at the end)

4. Do you focus more on required degrees/certifications, or experience without certifications?

5. If/When you have no personal experience in the role/industry, what's the guide you're using to select? Is it just matching as much of the JD as possible or are you using Google/AI to find out what background and transferable skills can be useful for the role?

Thanks for any input.

End of last year I interviewed with a company for a role I really wanted! The panel interview was with the entire C-Suite, plus 2 lower level leadership team members. It went well, except for the answers I got from one of the two lower level leaders. Immediately I knew she'd be challenging to work with, and I'd be re-reading that How to Work With Difficult People book quarterly. 🥴

I didn't hear back and kept checking their website for updates on the role. nothing. Time passed and I just happened to read an article in our industry that included this company, so decided to check their website again. New hire (that did in fact have more experience than me) for the role was up. Not even a rejection email was sent. Cool.

More time passes and in my job notification emails I see they're hiring for a C-Suite role. I checked the website and not 1, not 2, but 1/3 of that panel alone is gone! Including Ms Challenging, in under a year. Glad I dodged that bullet and the "doing 2-3 people's jobs" problem. Keep checking the websites for companies you interviewed with, and you might be pleasantly surprised and validated!

There's always a discussion about why so many don't have friends. I think we should consider that everyone has different life standards as a factor to having a friend, the same way we have for romantic relationships.

Where do you draw the line with, what your friend does is unacceptable....

1. to you?

Ex Popping up unannounced, inviting plus one's without warning/asking, proximity to your partner, disciplining your children, counting your coins, "must be nice" remarks about homes/cars/clothes/vacations etc, expectations of using your time, space, money, bestie business discounts, possessions, etc?

2. in their life?

Ex gossip, overspend and living beyond their means, involved with a person already in a relationship, disciplining their kids too harshly (in your opinion), in a relationship with someone that isn't good for them and/or is possibly abusive, what they do for work/fun when it goes against your morals/character, etc or are you an unconditional ride or die?

What would you do if they weren't taking care of their kids (in any capacity), or sick parents when they have the means to help?

What would you do if you found out your friend had a publicly exposed life (Ex Jane Doe in the Diddy trial whose 🌽video was released, NOT talking about the victims), would you distance yourself or stick beside them?

Forgive me if this was previously posted, couldn't find it when I searched...

Remember that Hewlett Packard study about (mediocre) men applying to jobs with only 60% qualifications, because of their "high" self esteem, ego, confidence and audacity? Here's what I've been doing.

Put one of your "template" resume versions (without personal info) in whatever AI program you use. Then put the JD for the role you're considering.

Ask with a prompt like "What percentage of the requirements do I meet?" I've never got anything below 75%! You'll get a prompt telling you what changes can make it a higher match, then tweak accordingly. Hope that helps someone. Happy hunting!

Meds can't be the only source of help to do better. I feel effort on our part is needed too. What's your effort look like? Something you've done, are doing, or want to do soon?

PAST

I bought a walking pad/treadmill and it's been wonderful! It has a tray so I can set things on it like hand weights, tablet, etc so I multi task. It's reduced workout excuses and increased reading, watching docs/YouTube without "wasting time".

PRESENT

I've started using a 4 subject mini notebook to get all the never ending thoughts and to do's out of my head. (Recommended at last med visit since apps aren't working for me). I date the items as I write them down, to help with the urgency of getting them done. I dont like seeing things undone for a long time, and it's been so helpful. Something about the numbers in the past dates makes me do it, perhaps my autism side kicks in.

FUTURE

I'd loke to conquer no social media before noon/lunch.

Ladies I've been thinking lately about the energy it takes to support a friend going through something, or being involved in something. I hate to talk about people but I can't ignore the elephant in culture news.

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The trial was already a lot to witness and learn what Jane Doe was doing, her IG has lately been an ad of what she offers basically, now the tape and OF release. Her friend with the dimples (Outkast song) stood beside her through it all, and included Jane Doe in her YouTube episode released today.

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It made me think of the stigma she has as continuing to be her friend. I don't believe that birds flocking have the same feathers, but at what point would you say "I don't want to be associated with her/that", or would you support indefinitely until something is done to you personally?

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[I know their real names, I'm intentionally not using them, please don't]

Have a grandfathered One Plan at $80/month total for 1 user (on old unlocked phone no longer updated and not worth trading in, I'll buy another unlocked newer phone). Wanted to see deals compared to Spectrum 2 lines + home wifi plan for $100, and others.

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T-MOBILE

1. With existing One plan I was offered a cheap "Android on us" through Walmart "free" phone. Did anyone do this and was the switch ok for a free phone? Or would it be best used for a backup phone or 2nd line?

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2. Was also offered Essential saver plan for $61.35 total, same features of One plan, for 1 line. 2 lines for $102.58 total.

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3. Experience More $96.56 1 line, plus 60gb hot spot and standard Netflix (with ads) account. plus $60 for 2nd line. (Don't need hot spot or Netflix, so would just be extra)

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OR

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SPECTRUM - existing home wifi customer, I can get:

4. free mobile for 1 year, then goes to $30 or $40/mo. (Want to try service 1st before changing number completely)

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5. 2 mobile lines + home wifi $100.

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Basically a combo of misophonia and phrase-final something, is what it is called, from what I read. I've always hated the sound of certain voices, especially those that are really high pitched, and those that what I call "sing talk", and stretch out their words. It is like something goes through me and "shreiks" in my ears and head if that makes sense.

There are 2 people who are strongly intent on talking to me (to become acquainted and friends) and I just cannot deal with their voices. I kinda feel bad because they really try and I dont know how to say "sorry, dont want to be friends with you because i hate your voice, nothing personal." 🥴

Has anyone else had this happen? Did you get acquainted and the shreik wears off? Or worsens?Or did you politely maneuver to the point they got the hint, or what did you say?

Basically a combo of misophonia and phrase-final something, is what it is called, from what I read. I've always hated the sound of certain voices, especially those that are really high pitched, and those that what I call "sing talk", and stretch out their words. It is like something goes through me and "shreiks" in my ears and head if that makes sense.

There are 2 people who are strongly intent on talking to me (to become acquainted and friends) and I just cannot deal with their voices. I kinda feel bad because they really try and I dont know how to say "sorry, dont want to be friends with you because i hate your voice, nothing personal." 🥴

Has anyone else had this happen? Did you get acquainted and the shreik wears off? Or worsens?Or did you politely maneuver to the point they got the hint, or what did you say?

So I submitted an application and received an email from COO requesting available times for an interview, stating their entire panel has reviewed my resume. Non profit with main HQ 5-10 min from my house, small exec team.

Responded with options, but didn't hear back until following week. They unfortunately had a death in their family, apologized, and asked for another set of time options. Responded, but again didn't hear back. Understood, could be grieving/handling affairs still.

Two weeks went by, figured that was enough time from last email, emailed again. No response. Another 2 weeks, emailed again. The job is still posted, I think they may have abruptly taken leave and not handed off all assignments/interview requests. IDK

I'm not a fan of pop up visits, some said since it's right there, why not? Considering remaining C-Suite has reviewed resume already with her, what would you do?

A. Call office, ask for COO (to get status on possible absence)

B. Call office, ask for another party

C. Email office/another party

D. Stop by