u/BeachIllustrious5770

A few weeks ago, my friend invited me to her graduation dinner, but I completely forgot about it due to finals, 2 pet health emergencies, and other personal issues. I feel terrible about it, but it was an honest mistake. Earlier today, she texted me asking if I needed a ride, and I commented on the fact I had forgotten (Both of our birthdays are also in May, and I had merged the two dinner plans. Maybe I shouldn’t have mentioned it.) which I did because my partner works on call this weekend and can’t leave home. We agreed she’d pick me up, so I started getting ready and waited for her. When the time came for her to arrive, she wasn’t there. I waited a bit longer and then texted her, thinking she might have gotten caught up with something. She never came, so I texted her again, and she replied that she was already at the dinner place, 20 minutes into the dinner, and told me to come, knowing I didn’t have a ride. I explained that I couldn’t make it because I didn’t have a ride. There are a few of her friends I don’t get along with because they’ve spoken ill of me, and apparently, they offered to pick me up. I declined for several reasons: I felt uncomfortable being picked up by them, by the time I arrived, the dinner would likely be over, and I had already removed my makeup, undone my hair, and changed out of my clothes. She kept insisting, but I continued to decline. Eventually, she gave up and sent a dismissive “never mind” text. I can sense she’s upset with me, and I understand why, but I also think she needs to see things from my perspective. Maybe I’m overthinking it and being an asshole? I should also mention that I have a history of not wanting to attend social outings primarily because I don’t like to socialize, especially with people I don’t get along with. I think she may have assumed I never planned on going for two reasons: 1) because I forgot (which I did, but again, it was a genuine mistake) and 2) because I refused to be picked up. AITAH?

Edit: Yeah, I realized I was and am being an asshole. I’m currently in talks with my friend about it. Thanks to everyone who commented.

Hello, I’m about to start my senior thesis. Unfortunately, I recently received a health diagnosis which puts me in a difficult situation because I work a full-time job, which is necessary because my job provides me with health insurance that will cover my therapy. However, with my full-time job, appointments, summer classes, and senior thesis, I’m unsure about whether I’ll be able to keep up with everything. Has anyone been excused from the typical senior thesis? Or been granted a reduced schedule?

Edit: I was diagnosed with cancer, lol. I received a very rude DM saying mental health and therapy isn’t a valid excuse.