u/Bearkingdom22

Im a male and Ive had reoccuring issues with yeast infections for YEARS with my partner. On my end, I had candida overgrowth which led to balanitis. Eventually we figured that this was the cause of her yeast infections.

Everytime we would have sex, it was like rolling the dice. If she were to feel the yeast infection symptoms she would race to medicate herself. She would go through that pain and discomfort for a day followed by us not having sex for a few days there after.... after a while this took a toll on our sex life.

As for me, i felt dry, if we had sex too long or rough id feel irritated and my penis skin would look irritated, i wasnt producing precum or natural lubrication, my semen production seem to have dropped by a lot as well. If I didnt masturbate or have sex for some time, i would feel better but she would still feel irritation at times and the yeast infection will still eventually still happen.

After her going back and forth with her gyno for some time she asked me to look into getting prescribed something to see if maybe I was the cause. I tried multiple routes with otc, nothing. Tried seeing doctors and theyll push topicals and not give me fluconazole.

Eventually we got flucanazole.

We tried 3 days 150mg of fluconazole treatment and nothing. We tried it at a diff occasion again and nothing. We gave up. We actually ended up breaking up.

Now that Im single I figured I can figure this out without possibility of infecting anyone or reinfecting myself. I suspect that when we tried flucanozole we didnt give each other enough time after the treatment to let our bodies get fully treated.

Anyways, during my research, I came across ureaplasma and everything began to click. Long story short, I did not test for it.. i simply just did the treatment. My logic was, if I have ureaplasma and get rid of it.. i can then attack the candida.

I did the following:

14 days 2x/day Doxy - 100mg

1 day Azitro. - 1.5g

3 days Flucan. - 200mg

1 day a week for 3 weeks Flucan. - 200mg

I did all this without taking any zinc or magnesium during that time. I also, started taking probiotics that were given to my ex girlfriend by her gyno. (I read somewhere that the man should get on the same probiotics as the woman so floras cam match) The probiotics that I take are Fairhaven Health - Isofresh Vaginal Probiotic. I also ate kimchi, drank kombucha, and anything that supports gut health.

I feel the best that i have felt in a long time. I am producing precum, natural lubrication, I am producing more cum at a more frequent level. I dont feel irritation on my skin or glands.

Things were so bad for so long that I was beginning to accept that maybe this was normal. I felt that maybe with age my libido was dropping? Or maybe my body is just not going to be the same again.

I feel like i got my sex life back.

Only thing Id need to do to prove it 100% would be to have sex with either my ex or a new partner and see if she will get reoccuring yeast infections again. However, during these years, masturbation was not how it used to be... i had similar symptoms (irritation, itchyness, inflammation etc) when i just masturbated or masturbated too much. Now I am not having this issue at ALL.

Please feel free to ask me any questions, if some parts are not clear.

Long story short, my relationship blew up over finances, cheating, and complete lack of accountability.

My ex wanted a strict 50/50 financial setup even though she was already drowning in debt. I actually make more money, and instead of trying to benefit off her, I sat down and built two financial plans for us.

Plan A was her exact “50/50 black-and-white” setup. On paper, it would keep her in debt for at least 2.5 years — and that’s assuming zero emergencies or unexpected expenses.

Plan B was my proposal: I’d continue giving her money monthly, but instead of wasting cash flow pretending everything was “equal,” we’d aggressively pay off her debt starting with the car. Once the car was gone, her monthly cash flow would improve, then we’d snowball the rest. We’d both be financially stable and saving money within a year.

Ironically, Plan B actually benefited her more and cost me more.

Her response? She accused me of trying to financially control her. She said:

“If you’re going to give me money, just give it to me. It’s not up to you what I do with it.”

I was honestly shocked. I was trying to help us build a future, help our kids, and get ahead together. Instead, she treated me like I was trying to manipulate her.

After that fight, things changed hard. She became cold, aggressive, disrespectful, and eventually I found out she was talking to other men online. I stayed quiet at first because I was already emotionally checked out from how she was treating me.

Then one day she stormed in demanding MORE money because — surprise — her precious 50/50 plan was falling apart financially.

Eventually I confronted her about cheating. That turned into accusations of “emotional abuse,” police being called, and then her openly cheating physically. After that, she demanded an open relationship and basically said she’d do what she wants whether I accepted it or not because it “helps her mentally.”

Now I sleep on the couch while she acts like I’m the villain.

What messes with me most is the complete lack of empathy or accountability. I apologized for hurtful things I said during arguments. She never apologized for cheating, lying, disrespect, or blowing up the relationship. Instead she doubled down harder.

The craziest part is that I genuinely tried to help this woman financially, emotionally, and long-term. I was literally trying to help pay off her debt faster so we could both win.

Instead, somehow I became the bad guy.

The split is hard with this one. One day we are on cloud 9, next trigger she is monkey branching and completely throwing it all to the curb. What I do, besides trying to have order and growth?

There are so many other things that I can touch on besides this direct situation but without going into it is... I noticed, when all is well, things are in order, things are healthy and moving, you can see their demeanor change in an instant.. you see a black cloud come over them... things are going well? How? This is not normal, something needs to hapoen right? My life is chaos... so what do they do? They sabatoge shit. They create chaos. In their world its all validated and its up to us to sit there and lick our wounds and pick up the pieces.