u/BedsideLamp99

Me and my husband had our girls back to back (15 month age gap), they are currently 1 & 2. We love their age gap and how they're slowly playing with one another, laughing, cuddling and hugging each other. We are both content with the 2 and feel very full with them however the thought of having a 3rd has crossed our minds frequently. I've told my husband that I do not want to have children past 30 due to medical reasons (currently 26) and he agreed. I've tried 3 different types of birth control and they've all had terrible side effects 1 being a TIA, so I suggested that maybe he get snipped. Here is where is gets weird between us.

He is unsure if he wants a 3rd, he feels complete with the 2 girls. I always wanted 3 children, however I gave up on that when we talked about settling for 2 however the idea of 3 still comes up. My husband and I would be excited if we had a son as it's almost all girls on both sides of family with the exception of 1 nephew lol. He booked an appointment with our family doctor for a vasectomy referral and the appointment was actually booked within the same week. With the appointment slowly approaching we're both now feeling super hesitant on going through with it, like we're both unsure if we are truly done having kids. Sure some vasectomy's are reversible if done within a certain time frame however if we had his reversed it wouldn't be for another 4 years and who knows if the success rate of that will be.

My husband absolutely hates having unprotected sex, condom on or no sex at all in fear of me getting pregnant. I am currently on the depo shot however it completely killed my sex drive and I'm slowly gaining weight with no change in my diet kr exercise. Anybody else go through the same thing? Feeling hesitant on vasectomy?

Thicc af girly here, 300lbs & 6'0. I wish I could look like the curvy type plus size but instead I got the bad posture with the Mike Wazowksi ass 😭😭, idk how or why my husband married me but oh well I'll take the W's where I can lol just wish I had some junk in the trunk at least omgg

Hey everyone, new member here. So in the past 2 weeks I had 3 episodes of TIA, 1 while I was at work, 1 while I was in the vehicle (passenger) and 1 very scary one while me and husband were out grocery shopping. My most recent episode I was urged to go to the ER, so we went and spent all day there. I explained to them my symptoms (left arm and leg numbness, partial neck numbness, tunnel vision, light headed, slurred speech and not making sense while talking). It started when I was talking to my husband and everything that came out of my mouth didn't make sense at all, then came the numbness and the rest followed. My husband didn't really care and kept walking while I was dragging myself through the store to finish our shopping. Anyways I finally get my results and sure enough it was a TIA and the dr explained it as my body's warning sign, he referred me to a stroke prevention clinic and now I'm terrified. My blood pressure started getting high while I was pregnant with our 1st baby and it's just stayed around even after I had our 2nd.

I feel like this is my fault because this whole time (1 year) I haven't been taking my medications or measuring my blood pressure due to having 2 very young kids close in age (2 year old & 1 year old) and just not having the time. I feel like I'm responsible for this and that there is nobody to blame except for myself and it is, my husband suddenly cares and doesn't want me eating anything that has sodium in it which now results in me hardly eating anything during the day except for snacking on an orange or something to help ease my hunger pains. As I scroll through this sub I see all these amazing people that have survived a stroke and are dealing with recovery and healing which is amazing but it terrifies me thinking about it happening to me. I can't imagine having troubles carrying my girls, not being able to tuck them into bed, take them on walks to the park etc. Thanks for reading to whoever got this far.