r/PlusSize

Hi all.

I just broke up with a long term partner. I had gotten with him almost four years ago like, three months after ending a five year relationship.

I’m not particularly interested in a new relationship right away because I really need to focus on my mental and physical health and building up healthy routines again. But both of those relationships had dead bedrooms. And I haven't had sex in over a year at this point.

I’m really nervous to get back out there, even for the casual stuff. I’m 5'6 and ~350. I don't carry it well. I guess I’m wondering if anyone with a similar build has experience like this. I don't want to be totally alone and I’m very touch starved lol but I’m scared of trying or downloading the apps again and getting absolutely no matches.

And I’m also just really sad. I feel like I had no choice but to initiate this break up but it still doesn't feel real and I’m very tempted to offer him just one more chance (even though it would be the like, 5th last chance I gave him). We're also likely going to be living together still for the next month or two at least.

Anyway I’m mostly venting at this point. Any advice or commiseration would be appreciated ❤️

so i agreed to babysit a kiddo for the next door neighbor who happens to be my husband's old family friend and at first it was fine but then the mom hurt her foot and has to wear a boot she she's staying at home but still wants my help to take care of her 9 year old during the day

now that she's home and we've been chatting more, i feel so uncomfortable being here because there's been several comments that just make me feel like shit :/

the first one, the mom was telling me about how she used to be 350 pounds and lost the weight (she's very skinny now) and she started talking about how unhealthy she was when she was fat. then she looks me up and down and says "sorry sweetheart, but it's the hard truth" like what?? okay?? i am disabled (which is partly why im fat but ive always been a bigger person, even as a kid) but despite that i'm actually pretty healthy per my doctors, checkups, and lab work...

then her adult daughter came over and works as a waitress in some sort of bikini restaurant (??) and made a comment about how mad she was that "fat kelly" gets the friday shifts and the mom was going on about how much prettier and skinnier her daughter is and how she should get the better shifts because people will obviously like her more because of that

and now finally today the 9 year old excitedly ran up to her mom and went "look! my stomach is flat!" and the mom went "yeah you've grown and lost some weight, you look so much better now!"

like it's just all these little comments and i'm just sitting here as a fat women and trying not to let it get to me but it's been really hard. i just wanna be done with this babysitting already 💔

Hey! So just wondering if anyone here has had a Brazilian wax done with the sugar waxing technique? I react really badly to the regular wax when getting my eyebrows (unibrow of pimples 😬) done so I stopped doing that. Anywho I’m getting real tired of shaving because I can’t really see what I’m doing 🤣 anywho just wondered about the experience and if the sugar waxing works well? I’ve read that it can be challenging to do for the Brazilian?

I was with my niece, nephew and my uncle. The ride was quite high up but wasn’t a full on ride, instead it was slow just going around a bit of the park.

The bar didn’t go down so I was asked to leave, the guy was very apologetic which I don’t know if it made it better or worse.

I just don’t know how to feel now as this has never happened before.

How do you guys deal with this stuff?

Okay I’m rebuilding my wardrobe and I’m mainly looking for plus size basics that look professional without feeling super corporate or boring.

I’m so over buying cheap tees and basics that look fine at first and then pill after two washes, lose their shape or somehow end up both clingy and shapeless lol.

The goal is stuff that looks clean and put together but can still work with a blazer, on a Zoom call, at brunch or when a quick errand somehow turns into running into someone from high school.

I checked the clothing recommendations wiki first but I’m still looking for more specific suggestions on quality plus size basics that actually hold up.

Universal Standard keeps coming up. Is it actually worth the price? And what other brands are comparable for quality plus size basics?

Looking for real opinions, especially on stuff that has held up after regular washing.

Saw someone ask about this and thought I'd just make a PSA cuz not just OP needs to know about it.

All emergency contraception is better than no emergency contraception, but...
If you take an emergency contraception pill with levonorgestrel (like Plan B One Step, Take Action, My Way, and others) and you weigh more than 165 pounds, it won't work as well.

ella is another emergency contraception pill that may work better for you. But if you weigh 195 pounds or more, ella won't work as well.

No matter how much you weigh, certain IUDs work as emergency contraception if you get it inserted within 120 hours (5 days) after having unprotected sex. This is the most effective type of emergency contraception. An IUD has to be put in by a doctor, nurse, or other health care provider. You can contact your nearest Planned Parenthood health center to find out more about getting an IUD.

I’m so scared. I got drunk Saturday night and ended up having unprotected sex. He didn’t cum in me, but on the outside of my vagina. I heard there’s a chance that precum could get me pregnant… we got a plan b just in case and I took it about 3pm the next day. Is there anything else I can do to make sure I absolutely don’t get pregnant? And how worried should I be? I’m 5’6 and weigh 330 something so I know it’s definitely less effective. I’m currently 20 years old so I have no room to be pregnant.
In my state I’m not able to get the Ella pill.
My period is due in 2 days and the app I use says I ovulated somewhere near the 4th-6th.

& how do you motivate yourself to do it?

If merch is not size inclusive, it is permission for me to bootleg it in my size. Sorry not sorry!

Was at the bar this past weekend and ran into a mutual friend who I think is pretty cute. Whenever him and I see each other, we can talk for a while with no gaps in the convo. It's super easy, he's very kind, and I liked seeing him because of that, and this night was no different.

He kept coming up to talk to me and would get really close to me, would be solely focused on me when talking in a group of people, pupils dilated, kinda touchy and flirty, complimenting my tats, etc.

Obviously when you lay it out like that it would seem like he was maybe interested, which is also what I initially thought.

But then in one of our convos that night in which we were ragging on annoying uni profs, he dropped "Like I'm sorry you're miserable because you're unhappy, have a fat ugly wife at home, etcetc" and I was just like 😐 bruh moment.

I have 0 experience in the dating world and am extremely shy to open myself up to potential opportunities. I'm also pretty clueless for the most part but that night I thought I was sensing a vibe so I was trying to return it, only to hear that...

In all honesty, it was really disheartening when he said that because I'm always trying to tell myself people are and can be attracted to me regardless of my weight, then I hear shit like that that just re-affirms the anxiety that people only enjoy talking to me because of my humour. And I know that one person doesn't speak for everyone, but it's just frustrating when it happens :/

Sigh.

Hiii ik sometimes as a plus size person you wonder if your gonna be able to fit on certain rides so I’m just sharing my experience with what rides i could fit on!

For context:

I’m around 295

2x-3x in clothes

58 inches 

42 inches waist

31 inch inseam

5’10 in height

These are All the rides I tried going on:

SpongeBob jellyfish jam- yes

Slime streak- no

The Shredder - no

Aang’s airglider - no

Dora sky railway - yes

Butter beans sweet spin Cupcakes - yes

hope this can be helpful for anyone who’s planning on visiting!

I went 4 different thrift stores in the past week and there’s barely anything plus size!!! Even the XL racks are tiny. It’s hard out here man. I’m just a girl trying to save money 😭

Hi all! I (25F) have experienced so much fetishization over the years. Men telling me they’ve always wanted to hookup with big women. Men weirdly trying to persuade me to eat crappy food and telling me to never lose weight. Men making weird comments about my body.

I started seeing a man not too long ago and we were cuddling and he told me he loved how chunky I am. At first, I was feeling a little off-put but brushed it off until he said it at least one other time. And also things like “You’re so soft” and “you’re so warm” which aren’t inherently bad things to say but are things I often hear men use to describe bigger women. Today we were on the phone and I was talking about how men will sometimes date plus size women but keep them a secret. He told me that he would never do that and how both of his exes were bigger and even about how much they weighed. Part of me feels like he’s just trying to reassure me and make it known that he’s attracted to me but part of me hates when guys act this way. I don’t want to hear about how chunky I am and how he’s only really dated bigger women. It gives me the ick.

All my life ive mostly worn graphic tees with jeans. Ive come out of my shell so much and even wore heels for the first time for my birthday yesterday!

Im looking for help on getting out of wearing mostly graphic tees still. I love short summer dresses, tennis skirts and nice dress pants with a blouse but I find many dressy tops make me look older or cover up too much.

Im 25, 5'7, 260 lbs.

Please tell me the stores you shop for cute/sexy/goth/country ect clothes.

I want more effortless outfits that still look beautiful, thank you for any help!

I'm a teen. Objectively one of the age ranges most susceptible to eating disorders. I'm also fat. And I've felt the shift towards a pro skinny or "thin is in" mentality. I've had some of my skinniest friends call themselves fatasses for drinking a milkshake. I've seen the bombarding of kids talking about their "dream bodies" and weighing themselves and being ashamed of their weight, etc etc.

But yknow what? I've never been happier with being fat. Because in a world that wants me starving and injecting myself with GLP-1s to get myself down to skin and bone, I refuse. I REFUSE to think I am any less worthy for being heavy. I REFUSE to limit what I eat to appeal to a nonexistent force. I REFUSE to let my friends convince me "fat" is a dirty word, and that applying it to myself means I hate my body.

I. WILL. NOT. WASTE. AWAY.

Every day, waking up, looking at myself, and smiling at my stretch marks is rebellion. Weighing myself and not caring when the number on the scale goes up is rebellion. Choosing to eat that damn cookie over feeling healthier is rebellion. Because I'd rather be fat than a walking corpse.

EDIT: I’d like to clarify I don’t think obesity is okay. What I meant is that I refuse to let myself get upset about being on the heavier side when I know I eat healthy and get a good amount of exercise. Diet culture makes people think skinny = healthy, which is what I’m trying to fight by being happy with myself. I am NOT saying you should actively seek out gaining as much weight as possible, sorry if that’s how it came across. The scale comment was a hyper specific one about my relationship with anxiety, whenever I weighed myself and found out I’d gained even a pound, I’d unnecessarily freak out. I was trying to say not caring has made me worry less, which makes me objectively better off.