u/BeeAffectionate8937

My bf and I have been dating over a year I love him a whole lot. Well things haven’t always been the best and it’s been rocky at times. I started my first year of college last fall and my mom didn’t help me get to school much at all. I had no car and not much money to uber and it would’ve been quite a bit to walk when it takes under 5 minutes to get to the school driving as it was up the street from home. A lot of the time my bf would come all the way from
Chicago (I live in a different state ) which was 30+ mins away at times. He would take me to class , he would pick me up majority of the time. My mom had moved her ex boyfriend in again and started treating me differently.

So since that happened my mom started to become angry at me and yell at the time. She would get mad if go to my boyfriend’s house at the end of the school week. She started finding random stuff for me to do around the house to complain about and threaten to kick me out multiple times and even told
Me to leave . Sometimes she’d do this in front of my boyfriend having him think that she didn’t want to help me. That she didn’t like me etc it was sometimes embarrassing and I cried . My mom had never threaten to kick me out before this.

She started to pick arguments with me all the time to the point now I don’t want to live here and I would like to live with my partner . The only issue is I have no job or money right now to move states . This would completely leave me dependent on him which I don’t want . As much as I love my boyfriend he can be emotional draining at times . If he gets mad, we get in an argument or he doesn’t agree with something I said he will shut completely down and not want to be near me. I wouldn’t wanna be stuck there I would wanna leave if he needed to cool off not be trapped. He only does it sometimes but when it happens it can last hours or days with an attitude.

As of now I feel trapped , me and my mom have ups and downs I love her I just don’t wanna be here anymore. I love my boyfriend but I can’t go somewhere and completely abandon my only support system because he thinks they won’t help . Also he wants me to only depend on him which I don’t want to I want my own stuff money and car . I feel like staying closer to family is the best thing for me at the moment though we live in a different city as them that’s closer to his work. He makes it seem like such a hard compromise .

He thinks Chicago will offer me a job right away and things would work out there than in my state . This is stressing me out my mom also tells me not to move with him as he’s very up and down in general no matter the state . What do I even do at this point ?

Hey, for starters I’m 19 and I’m from a small city my boyfriend is from a big busy city . Well he wants me to move deep in the heart of the city to live in a good area with him and also for better opportunities. Due to this I would possibly be leaving my family at least a hour away from them and moving in with my partner. Is this possibly a good idea or what more details would be shared in dm.

If there are any girls on here or just someone I can relate to I’d love to talk ! Make friends talk about random life crap would be cool

Pm or comments strictly advice and opinions on this topic

For starters my boyfriend’s sister started off initially being nice adding me on Facebook. She randomly blocked me because a cat that wasn’t even hers. That she ended up still keeping after the fact just because it came to my house she blocked me. Anyways she’s homeless with her boyfriend both of them are older than my boyfriend and I . She’s nearly 30 and her boyfriend is like 31 . Don’t clean up lay around all day and had popped out a whole kid in my boyfriends house a few months ago. All 5 children are in dcfs care because she and her boyfriend are felons of serious crimes with hers being child endangerment. I heard this girl arguing with her boyfriend today and then I overheard her say “No,because his fat ass girlfriend came over …” the rest was muffled . Mind you she was being loud so I could hear assuming I wasn’t there.

My boyfriend confronted her and she claimed she was talking about the upstairs neighbor and then being loud during adult activities tho the neighbor doesn’t come over to the apartment ever and hangout. She also said her pads went missing which I also didn’t take . It didn’t make sense at all for her to be talking crap about me even being at my boyfriend’s house . Nobody told you to move it you are homeless you and your boyfriend barley pay and still have yet to get jobs to help with bills and barley helping pay rent 300 bucks a month isn’t helping a bill over 1200 a month. She says she knew I was there but both my boyfriend and I came back silently and he told them he was leaving and didn’t let them know I was there. She also lied and said she didn’t block me like someone else took her phone and blocked me. This is right after she had me do her hair . Besides that she only talks to me if my boyfriend is around.

Basically doesn’t speak or say anything and her boyfriend never speaks both rude and lazy letting food mold on the stove . Do you guys think she was talking about me or could she have been talking about the neighbor