u/BeeBee_333

I have been with my partner for 2 years. He shows up a lot with actions and acts of service. We live together and he cooks , cleans , and our partnership feels so equal. He also gives me a lot of quality time, we are always taking trips or going on dates. We have built a life together with our dogs and merged families and friends. The only issue is (and it feels huge to me) is our conversations feel dull and lack depth. He has never asked me about my childhood or life before him. We have never talked about my fears, my dreams, or passions. I try hard to start conversations with him that are not surface level but everytime I try he seems quiet or not interested. I have mentioned to him multiple times I wish we could have deeper conversations about life , and who we are in general and he always responds with “I don’t know what to ask” or “that isn’t how I was raised to have conversations.” 2 years in and I feel like I have major life events he has no idea about , positive and negative. I have tried to open up to him about my life and his dull responses makes me shut down because I feel like I’m talking to myself or the conversation isn’t wanted . I have brought up my need for deeper conversations multiple times and I feel like nothing comes of it. For Christmas he bought a question book for couples and I felt like it was his attempt to try but the book stayed on the shelf and hasn’t been touched unless I bring it out . Sometimes I worry he just wants a girlfriend for the benefits and not for the deep emotional connection. I am unsure what to do and I feel so guilty because he checks off all the marks outside of this . I feel like breaking up with a man who has never treated me poorly, never even insulted me once, and does all these actions would be insane . Is this something
Anyone has experienced and worked through?

TL;DR looking for recommendations for a deeper connection

I have been with my partner for 2 years. From the start I have mentioned I have chronic anxiety and panic attacks. Never once was I asked why from my partner (M33) but I have been met with a lot of support in the moment I have anxiety which has built a lot of trust. The last few months I have started to feel resentful when I mention something I can relate to regarding trauma and leave the door open for him to learn more and he doesn’t ask any questions . I have mentioned to him that I wish to share more about my past, my triggers, for him to have a better understanding . Yet still, he never brings up the topic or asks me questions. I am usually an open book but I am aware of trauma dumping so I will only share my story when the other person is interested and receptive and I have not felt that from him which makes me feel unseen. I have been in therapy for years , and even done EMDR therapy in our relationship and I have told him I am struggling with my sessions and never once has he asked “why” or “would you like to share it with me?” I can’t help but feel he’s a bit uninterested in my personal struggles. When I ask him why he doesn’t ask more questions he says “ I don’t know what to ask.” After I start the conversation and have even given small details for him to just be silent . Sometimes I feel like I have had deeper convos with strangers I meet in day to day life . Iv been told it’s not important to share all aspects of the past but for me it feels important to be understood on what I struggle with . is it possibly our communication styles and level of deepness in a relationship are not compatible?